thinking all the time at her

[bigboi1985]

Hi guys ,im new here .I wanted a place where i can write ,a place where i can speak with people in the same situation like me.I want to ask you how you can manage this distance ,the lonely night and most important ,how you are dealing with the feeling that maybe ,tomorrow,she will give up on this relationship ?

[dragonlady]

why do you think she will give up? then there is something wrong, your in or your out not as long as it's fun?
for the rest.. just cope.. get something of her send something of you, clothes that they have worn so there smell is in it is very nice to make it true the hard day's
every thing he send me i keep close (for now it are emails and such, it will be a bit more easy when you got something "personal" )

[Karura]

I don't think my SO will give up on me because I love him and have faith in him. The worries and negative feelings are overcome with the positive ones, looking forward to see him again on Skype and then finally in person. It's hard to cope with the distance and loneliness without that special person but for him I'm willing to hold on, that's what I keep telling myself. And I also remember that I'm not alone, this is a two-person relationship, which means he has to deal with the distance and time as well.

[summerkid]

if you think about it, even if you were in the same city, she could "drop this tomorrow"... but it doesn't work like that. Everybody here knows how hard distance can be, but you have faith in the other, you communicate as much as possible, you look forward to the visits and you enjoy the contact you have with your SO in the meantime.

[XxFranticLovexX]

I agree with everyone else. Also, if you're worried that she will end the relationship then talk to her about it. For a little while I was over thinking things so I just asked my SO how he felt about our relationship, the distance, and me. Honestly, any insecurities you have can usually be fixed by trusting your SO or talking to them about it, especially if they are unfounded insecurities.

[MattDavies86]

Maybe there's something we don't know, why do you think she would give up? How long have you been going for? Definitely as everyone has said, talk to her about it, talking always helps.

[bigboi1985]

we are together since september 2011,we meet in greece while we were working there .than the next year she didn't came back to greece ,but we continued to talk throw internetand after 1 year and 4 months we finally saw again (answer for MattDavies).We talk about this and we agree to give us this year and we'll see what happens.The worst thing is that she need this visa to go out of russia ,so that we can go together somewhere and start our life.Anyway ,like she said " time and destiny will tell us everything"

[kria]

Like many others said, talking is important. Communication during an LDR is one of the most important things in the relationship. If something is bothering you, talk about it with your SO. Also, look forward to talking and doing small things together online (such as watching a movie online together). Distance is hard, but you can't really think like that. You have to see the positive things about the relationship not the negative. I hope this helps.