Sharing the joy and fear.

[aniay]

You will understand and I'm sure I will not hear from you I'm being stupid or unrealistic.

It feels a bit unrealistic in how happy I am and how insanely amazing he is, to me and in general. I had some bad experiences in the past, including unhappy mariage for 10 years, and I never EVER felt so loved and accepted.

It's like I met my prince and I feel treated like a princess. I can tell him anything and everything because he is also a great friend and he doesn't label me or tell me I'm being stupid or overreacting, which happened to me a lot in the past.

I am so high on this relationship, I always feel very strongly whatever feeling i feel. I also feel like a teenager being in love again.

And there comes my fear that it will disapear, that it will do a pouf and just be gone. I know that when I decide to stick with one person I will. I stayed with my ex for 10 years but thanks to my ex I have deep insecurity now ingrained inside me that I will be left by my darling.

He reminds me every time that he doesn't want anyone else and I myself don't want anyone else. We found each other across the miles, we both want to stick together and we both want to make it work. We are planning future together and kids which we both want very much.

I feel like I'm getting as much as I'm giving. And finding this forum I start believing more and more that we will make it, that there are couples that made it through, that closed the distance and had their happy ending.

I do need some encouragement, or advice from you. I feel like me and my SO are the only ones that believe it will work.

[dragonlady]

i understand, i have the same fear, but i try to move it aside
be like a duck smooth and cool on the outside, but under water peddel like hell!!!!
what i mean to say is just take one day after an other, enjoy what you have now!
if you let your fear get the upper hand your not living to the fullist
i keep in my mind that (god forbid) something goes wrong at least i tryed and gave it my best shot, so i dont regret anything after!
i want to live and not be in fear all the time, i love him, trust him and he does the same and that should be enough we are not holding back because we both fear of getting hurt again (offcourse we too have some doubt now and a while, that is part of living. we talk about it or push it aside because we dont want to let it get the upperhand)
hope my rambling helps a bit, big hug!!

[Mims27]

This is the place for my you dear!
When I first started feeling things for my SO, I felt the same way. I was super happy and excited but I was also scared and confused. I kept asking myself who this would even be possible, how could we make it work...you know, the usual stuff. But we have been together for 3 years next month and it just works. We fight, cry, laugh and do all the things normal couples do. It's incredibly hard and a lot of people wouldn't be able to do this or go through the stuff we have been through but we are, and it's WORTH IT.

Good luck and when in doubt, you have this place!
Welcome!

[Moon]

We all carry scars and baggage from past relationships, but it's important to not make our partners pay the price of them. LDR's work perfectly fine, you just stumbled onto a website that shows you there are many, many of us going through the same thing The thing is, you can't pay attention to people telling you this is impossible, they usually mean well, but they don't understand. Hang out here, this is such a great resource for us and it helps so much.