Destroy the Distance

[Sarah77]

HI!

Just watched the video of Destroy the distance programme.
Have you watched it? What do you think?

I didn't like it at all and you shouldn't really put a price for a few tips that can help you with a LDR. We're all in the same boat! We should help each other and not pay for advice.

I might be taking it really too seriously but I'd like to know what you think

Is it really worth it to buy advice?

[Inspirement]

Yeah, I watched i too from the link that LFAD posted on Facebook, and I made a quite negative post about it there. When I told my SO though, someone had removed my comment! I mean, first off, these tips aren't at all as sensational as they are made out to be. You will learn just the same things from spending a day perusing the LFAD forums, and some of the claims are pure nonsense. I mean, "the one phrase to say to make it impossible for your partner to cheat on you" (yes, that's a quote)? That's one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. They also made a bunch of other ridiculous claims that made it sound more like a course in how to make people do what you want them to. Like, your partner don't love you anymore and you broke up, but I'm gonna teach you how make them love you!

That's just my opinion though. If anyone have actually benefited from this, good for you, I guess.

[ThePiedPiper]

I actually haven't seen the trailer, but I looked it up and read about it and I have to say that I'm sceptical. I think you have to be very, very careful re: the idea of "here's how YOU can have a successful relationship!" The fact of the matter is, what having a good relationship comes down to is a foundation of friendship, from which will stem trust, communication and respect, and then everything else is built on top of that. Friendship is what allows you to foster a safe space, trust, communication and respect come out of that safe space (or can be repaired within that safe space), and then everything else is very specific to the individual relationship. For example, a couple who fights daily can have a happier, healthier relationship than a couple that fights once a week, even though people would say the couple that fights once a week is happier/healthier based on what we've been told by society. Those are the types of opinions you tend to find in "how-to"s or self-help type things that you have to be careful about. People tend to have a successful relationship and want to apply their successes to others, which is all fine and well, but relationships are so individualistic that what works for one doesn't necessarily mean it'd work for another. If you're interested in looking up books on relationship or martial success, I recommend John Gottman's work, as he actually has research and a solid foundation for his claims and they're very good.

[rina]

This is just the typical marketing video with them making you watch something for 10 minutes without actually saying anything interesting. I have always despised this type of marketing.. never after watching such a video it made me want to be more curious about the product or wanting to buy it.

Plus i find all the manipulative context of this video quite annoying.. it's like.. you should totally listen to what your friends say about this and make your ultimate goal in this relationship, not closing the distance, but impressing your friends and hitting them in your ego for having an opinion of your own!

Not to mention that when someone says to me: "i got 3 steps to doing this, it's THAT easy!" no, not really, nothing in life is THAT easy, and i mean NOTHING.

[HenryWinkler]

I've looked at this, and to be honest he is trying to sell common sense from what I saw (I watched three modules on someone else's account.) Its nothing worth money, and things that you can ask anyone on the street about and probably get a similar answer.

The repair kit thing? It didn't really seem much like a repair kit as an attempt to string yourself along. I can say from past experience that it is a pretty bad idea.

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

"We've done what no one else could do"

...I'm pretty sure there are other people who've survived LDRs.

"Hanging out with the wrong people and doing the wrong things can harm your relationship"

"You can spend time together"

Just STOP, LDR man. The common sense is blowing my mind.

My favourite two bits:

"You can have an incredible sex life"

"All your friends will be jealous"