honesty

[Saleanah]

Is there a such thing as being too honest with someone?

[summerkid]

YES! absolutely...

[kteire]

Yes, but I think most of it has to do with tact, common sense, and consideration.

I live by the phrase 'if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything'. Also my SO and I have agreed that since I'm a worrier and prone to anxiety, we don't talk a great deal about exes

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

I think honesty is a really good thing. Sometimes honesty can hurt you, but it's difficult to asses the situation and move on from it if you don't have all the facts. Although I do think there are some things you don't necessarily have to be honest about. But those times are the ones where it's not important. Like if your friend buys a new dress and says "I love it, what do you think?" and you think it's horrible. I think it's more a question of tact. You have to try to be tactful, but people can misinterpret what you're saying if you're too tactful. It's all down to balance.

[Sora1101]

Definitely and it all revolves around tact and manners.

[Zephii]

I don't think so, no. I'm 100% honest with my SO and I expect the same in return. I like to think I'm strong enough to take whatever he comes out with in the light he means it rather than being offended. But occasionally we do offend each other, I'm too blunt or he picks the worst time to show his critical side (which is about as wide as a bus haha) and then feelings are hurt for half an hour, we both apologise for being dicks and we move on. It's ok to ruffle some feathers, it's not going to be the end of the world if something comes out wrong because we always have each other's best interests at heart and we know that.
When it comes to exes, we were best mates before we went official. I know exactly where he's been and he knows my history too (though I admit he had an easier time just letting it slide!)

There are two things I prize in a relationship - good personal hygiene and honesty

[MadMolly]

My ex and I were honest to the point of "offensive" bluntness (though I was never offended, ever). Like one time he told me he wanted me to lose 10kg before our next visit because he thought I was too overweight. Which I happily agreed with, since I wanted to lose a bit of weight myself too. I guess it depends on how sensitive you and your partner is. We always knew the other could handle anything, but I suppose it doesn't work with everyone.

[ChibiFelicia]

It depends who you're being 100% honest with. With my man im totally honest, he actually describes me as honest, blunt and without tact : ( good thing thats what he actually likes about me. I expect him to be honest with me too but he's a lil more tactful.

[MattDavies86]

I think so yes, some things should be said carefully and somethings people don't need to know. i don't mean lie or hide something important though.