A bit of background, I'm in my SO's country (Guatemala) for the summer, I live in a different town but we see each other on Sundays.
Today we were FB messaging and I asked what time/when to meet tomorrow. He responded that his aunt invited them over for lunch then asked if I wanted to go. I have yet to meet his family aside from chatting with two of his brothers on FB and meeting his sister once. I know the general consensus is that his family likes me and doesn't care that I'm a gringa.
Among my thoughts of excitement and nervousness, I'm wondering if I should bring a host gift although I'm not sure who the gift would go to or what it would be. I would give the gift to his aunt but then I wouldn't feel right not giving something to his mother. I've come to understand that here it is somewhat customary to bring a small gift when invited to a home where you haven't met the people but I'm torn on if and what to give as it's also just a family lunch they do fairly regularly. I don't have anything to give from the US which is usually what is suggested and I feel weird giving anything too expensive or non-practical since his family isn't well-off and basically just gets by with no frills. I've sent a message to my SO asking what he thinks but I have a feeling his response will be to not bring anything. I was raised that I should bring something and really, I just want to make sure I do the right thing so I wanted others opinions.
I also wanted to know how/if anyone has dealt with language barriers when meeting their SO's family? I'm a bit terrified as my Spanish isn't that awesome - I just started learning it again this January after only taking beginning level in high school over 6 years ago. I can understand Spanish very well but have a hard time speaking it especially with people I don't know and if I'm feeling anxious. None of his family knows English; he doesn't either but my comfort level with him is super high so it doesn't matter to me if I have to take 5 minutes to say one sentence. When I met his sister, I did apologize and told her the reason I wasn't speaking much was due to my being generally shy, she said it wasn't an issue. I think this anxiety is just in my own head. haha
I just really want them to like me because his family is close and he's the oldest of 7 siblings; I don't want to be a bad reflection for him.
TL;DR: Should I bring a host gift to his aunt's house if I haven't even met his parents yet? They will all be there, it's a usual Sunday family lunch. Also, have you had an experience with language barriers when meeting your SO's family?
Today we were FB messaging and I asked what time/when to meet tomorrow. He responded that his aunt invited them over for lunch then asked if I wanted to go. I have yet to meet his family aside from chatting with two of his brothers on FB and meeting his sister once. I know the general consensus is that his family likes me and doesn't care that I'm a gringa.
Among my thoughts of excitement and nervousness, I'm wondering if I should bring a host gift although I'm not sure who the gift would go to or what it would be. I would give the gift to his aunt but then I wouldn't feel right not giving something to his mother. I've come to understand that here it is somewhat customary to bring a small gift when invited to a home where you haven't met the people but I'm torn on if and what to give as it's also just a family lunch they do fairly regularly. I don't have anything to give from the US which is usually what is suggested and I feel weird giving anything too expensive or non-practical since his family isn't well-off and basically just gets by with no frills. I've sent a message to my SO asking what he thinks but I have a feeling his response will be to not bring anything. I was raised that I should bring something and really, I just want to make sure I do the right thing so I wanted others opinions.
I also wanted to know how/if anyone has dealt with language barriers when meeting their SO's family? I'm a bit terrified as my Spanish isn't that awesome - I just started learning it again this January after only taking beginning level in high school over 6 years ago. I can understand Spanish very well but have a hard time speaking it especially with people I don't know and if I'm feeling anxious. None of his family knows English; he doesn't either but my comfort level with him is super high so it doesn't matter to me if I have to take 5 minutes to say one sentence. When I met his sister, I did apologize and told her the reason I wasn't speaking much was due to my being generally shy, she said it wasn't an issue. I think this anxiety is just in my own head. haha
I just really want them to like me because his family is close and he's the oldest of 7 siblings; I don't want to be a bad reflection for him.
TL;DR: Should I bring a host gift to his aunt's house if I haven't even met his parents yet? They will all be there, it's a usual Sunday family lunch. Also, have you had an experience with language barriers when meeting your SO's family?
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