I honestly think the age thing is a matter of opinion and circumstance. Me and my SO have a 9 year age gap and we do just fine. I don't understand that whole "he/she's too old for you,you shouldn't be with them!" thing unless she's like 13 and he's 24 or something. I just hope he's with you because he really love you and not because he's looking for something else. Most guys about that age only want one thing and you being 16 and all in love with this guy has the potential of blinding you to that fact. So watch yourself. The only other thing I will say on the age front is that I hope that sexually you're not doing anything. It is illegal for a US citizen to have sex with a minor if you're under the age of 18 in a good majority of states. Missouri I believe being one of them. That can get your SO charged with statutory rape if someone turns him in or your parents report him.
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Originally posted by Lydia_Decourcy View PostAge is just a number
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Originally posted by princessmaria View PostI don't know when you and your SO met, but potentially you were 15 years old when he sought you out which is just...creepy for a 24/23 year old.
To the OP: Just take precautionary measures and don't do anything with him until you're positive that he's in this for the right reasons and you're legal. Think about your future and your well being first and foremost above anything else. Even above him.
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If you were diagnosed with depresion I hope you are getting professional help. I can't stress out how important it is to get help in curing depression.
I know it helped me to deal with everyone and everything when I started getting meds.
You'r boyfriend sounds like a very nice guy, age diffe rence might not be a problem as well but by the age of 16 you never know how the life will turn out. You should concentrate on yourself so that whatever happens and whatever someone tells you you'll be self confident and not worry.
Your friend seems quite childlish but at the same time your depression might change the way you view her.
So concentrate on yourself and be strong. You are not alone, if you need someone to talk to there are people here who will listen.“We're all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness — and call it love — true love.”
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Lydia - I have to disagree with you and say your friend really does sound like she's jealous in some way. Trying to make you choose between her and your SO just isn't right, a real friend wouldn't do that. A real friend would support you and be there for you, even if she dislikes your SO as a person. To me, she's showing a great deal of immaturity and selfishness in how she's acting.
That said, I also need to say I agree with the other posters that've pointed out the age difference between you and your SO. So please take their warnings to heart and be careful, take good care of yourself and don't let him (or anybody else for that matter) pressure you into doing anything you're not comfortable with.
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Originally posted by LadyDaemon View PostI honestly think the age thing is a matter of opinion and circumstance. Me and my SO have a 9 year age gap and we do just fine. I don't understand that whole "he/she's too old for you,you shouldn't be with them!" thing unless she's like 13 and he's 24 or something. I just hope he's with you because he really love you and not because he's looking for something else. Most guys about that age only want one thing and you being 16 and all in love with this guy has the potential of blinding you to that fact. So watch yourself. The only other thing I will say on the age front is that I hope that sexually you're not doing anything. It is illegal for a US citizen to have sex with a minor if you're under the age of 18 in a good majority of states. Missouri I believe being one of them. That can get your SO charged with statutory rape if someone turns him in or your parents report him.Last edited by Lydia_Decourcy; August 23, 2013, 06:07 PM.Facebook Friends since July 2011
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Originally posted by princessmaria View PostIt may be just a number when two mature consenting adults are involved, but it's a whole different matter when your SO can literally be imprisoned for being with you in an inappropriate manner. I don't know when you and your SO met, but potentially you were 15 years old when he sought you out which is just...creepy for a 24/23 year old. I'm 19 and you're only 3 years younger than me, but we are in VERY very different places in our lives mentally and emotionally. I highly doubt your SO is thinking on the same level and terms that you are when he's 8 years older than you. I would just be very careful if I were you. I know you're all in love and stuff so it seems that what you're feeling can't be wrong, but be smart and create some boundaries for yourself. At the end of the day, it protects you and your SO.Last edited by Lydia_Decourcy; August 23, 2013, 06:07 PM.Facebook Friends since July 2011
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Originally posted by aniay View PostIf you were diagnosed with depresion I hope you are getting professional help. I can't stress out how important it is to get help in curing depression.
I know it helped me to deal with everyone and everything when I started getting meds.
You'r boyfriend sounds like a very nice guy, age diffe rence might not be a problem as well but by the age of 16 you never know how the life will turn out. You should concentrate on yourself so that whatever happens and whatever someone tells you you'll be self confident and not worry.
Your friend seems quite childlish but at the same time your depression might change the way you view her.
So concentrate on yourself and be strong. You are not alone, if you need someone to talk to there are people here who will listen.Facebook Friends since July 2011
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Originally posted by LadyDaemon View PostThe only thing I will say in defense of the OP on this one is that it's possible that he didn't seek her out,they just found each other. It happens. It could be innocent and he could really like/love her. There have been a lot of long distance couples who have met with this type of age gap and they don't touch each other until the younger one is legal or until marriage. But that's only because their SOs had respect enough for their SOs and themselves not to. When I was 16 I was dating guys I knew as friends first for a year or more that were older then me. They weren't being creepy or perverted,it's just how it happened. Of course it fell through,but the reasons were never sexually related. They treated me like shit,I left. Simple. Which I hope the OP has enough sense to do if he ever treats her badly or forces her into inappropriate actions before she's legal.
To the OP: Just take precautionary measures and don't do anything with him until you're positive that he's in this for the right reasons and you're legal. Think about your future and your well being first and foremost above anything else. Even above him.Facebook Friends since July 2011
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Originally posted by Mairja View PostLydia - I have to disagree with you and say your friend really does sound like she's jealous in some way. Trying to make you choose between her and your SO just isn't right, a real friend wouldn't do that. A real friend would support you and be there for you, even if she dislikes your SO as a person. To me, she's showing a great deal of immaturity and selfishness in how she's acting.
That said, I also need to say I agree with the other posters that've pointed out the age difference between you and your SO. So please take their warnings to heart and be careful, take good care of yourself and don't let him (or anybody else for that matter) pressure you into doing anything you're not comfortable with.Facebook Friends since July 2011
We have known each other since
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“Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It's for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It's for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don't see it nearly enough...”
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