By bf and I met 2 years ago on a holiday where he was working as a bartender for 9 months. He was still in an open relationship with a girl who lived on another continent. I know he slept with ±25 girls there. While I was there for 10 days we acted like we were a couple.
We kept in touch over email when I went back home. After 2 months I went back for another visit of 7 days and it was great.
2 months after that visit I said I didn't want to keep in touch anymore cause I felt it was comming more from my side and also cause he went to AUS for a year with his open-relationship gf to try if it worked. I heard from him occasionally but my responses were always short&neutral.
After 10 months he found out the 2 of them weren't right of each other. He contacted me again asking how it was going with my attempts to study in his country for a few months (I love his country and I had no intention of meeting him cause we had no contact at all when I applied)
We got to talk a bit more for 2 months and meanwhile I got accepted. Ofcourse we did end up meeting at the airport of his home country. Before that he has made his intentions clear: he wanted to be with me and hated my idea of no contact while he was in AUS because he couldnt stop thinking about me. I did feel like a second choice.
I had a great 6 months with him and we ended up as a couple. I met his family and he met my parents when they came for a visit. I went back to Holland then and he came along for a 3 week holiday.
On day1 I found out he was sexting with a girl he met in a club a month ago. I was confused and I said: 'I know about the texts, after 3 weeks we're done.' The 4 days after he tried to talk but i remained distant being 'just a tourguide.' He said it was a mistake, he never wishes to see me like this again& it made him realise how much he wants to be with me. He'll get an appartment here, work here after Xmas, whatever it takes to make it work. For him the sexting was like porn. He would never see her again (she was Swedish) and he was just curious to see why she as a married woman was interested in him. He tried to see how far she would go but he admitted he had to stop way sooner.
We managed to patch things up but I feel like this has made me so insecure about what he wants now that I have thought about it and he is back in his country.
Some days I have this gut feeling that it will never work out because he likes flirting with girls so much. Other days I am certain it will work cause we spent 4 weeks with each other being around one another 24/7 and we ended up being more in love than ever.
Am I right not to trust him totally or should I just believe his words and give everthing for this long distance relationship?
We kept in touch over email when I went back home. After 2 months I went back for another visit of 7 days and it was great.
2 months after that visit I said I didn't want to keep in touch anymore cause I felt it was comming more from my side and also cause he went to AUS for a year with his open-relationship gf to try if it worked. I heard from him occasionally but my responses were always short&neutral.
After 10 months he found out the 2 of them weren't right of each other. He contacted me again asking how it was going with my attempts to study in his country for a few months (I love his country and I had no intention of meeting him cause we had no contact at all when I applied)
We got to talk a bit more for 2 months and meanwhile I got accepted. Ofcourse we did end up meeting at the airport of his home country. Before that he has made his intentions clear: he wanted to be with me and hated my idea of no contact while he was in AUS because he couldnt stop thinking about me. I did feel like a second choice.
I had a great 6 months with him and we ended up as a couple. I met his family and he met my parents when they came for a visit. I went back to Holland then and he came along for a 3 week holiday.
On day1 I found out he was sexting with a girl he met in a club a month ago. I was confused and I said: 'I know about the texts, after 3 weeks we're done.' The 4 days after he tried to talk but i remained distant being 'just a tourguide.' He said it was a mistake, he never wishes to see me like this again& it made him realise how much he wants to be with me. He'll get an appartment here, work here after Xmas, whatever it takes to make it work. For him the sexting was like porn. He would never see her again (she was Swedish) and he was just curious to see why she as a married woman was interested in him. He tried to see how far she would go but he admitted he had to stop way sooner.
We managed to patch things up but I feel like this has made me so insecure about what he wants now that I have thought about it and he is back in his country.
Some days I have this gut feeling that it will never work out because he likes flirting with girls so much. Other days I am certain it will work cause we spent 4 weeks with each other being around one another 24/7 and we ended up being more in love than ever.
Am I right not to trust him totally or should I just believe his words and give everthing for this long distance relationship?
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