Hey there,
I've come here because I'm really not sure how to discuss that with my girlfriend and how I should approach that topic.
First of all, I (21, European) am now together with my girlfriend (26, Japanese) for pretty much 2 years. We've been having a long distance relationship all the time and could meet approximately every 3-6 months for a few weeks. We truly love each other and are also trying to work out a plan to eventually move in together. However, looking at the current situation that won't happen soon. Maybe in 2-4 years. We can pretty much talk about any topic on skype and in real, however I'm sometimes frightened to tell her my desires and wishes because I'm worried that could hurt her. I know that she loves me more than anything else (so do I!) and that she is fully satisfied just with me as long as we can close the distance somewhen in the future.
Anyways, sometimes (or recently quite often) I have the desire in meeting other girls and get involved with them (No relationship with emotions, just sex). Especially when we can't be together. I have to mention that she is my first girlfriend I've ever had. I don't want to do that behind her back or even lie on her. No way, that's not my way!
So I want to discuss with her the idea of an open relationship while our time apart. So we could get involved in physical closeness with other people while still having that deep emotional bond which connects us. It's really difficult for me (in my young age) during such a long time apart. Recently I also watch regularly adult contents on the internet just to partially satisfy my sexual drive which is really high. But I know that is not good and I'm wasting a lot of time with that!
Actually last time we spent time together, we discussed kind of this topic on the edge... She asked me if I would be satisfied to only have sex with her my whole lifetime.
I told her honestly that sometimes I feel the desire to "try out" other girls and she didn't get angry by that answer at all. She just told me, that it's a difficult situation and that I should better do it now than later when we're maybe getting married. She seems to understand that it's difficult to suppress this feeling and that it will get even stronger if ignored. She also told me if I do something back home, I shouldn't tell her... But I wanna stay honest with her.
What's the right approach to open up our relationship so that we are still both lucky and can stay a couple as we've been so far?
Thanks for your help
laurencio
I've come here because I'm really not sure how to discuss that with my girlfriend and how I should approach that topic.
First of all, I (21, European) am now together with my girlfriend (26, Japanese) for pretty much 2 years. We've been having a long distance relationship all the time and could meet approximately every 3-6 months for a few weeks. We truly love each other and are also trying to work out a plan to eventually move in together. However, looking at the current situation that won't happen soon. Maybe in 2-4 years. We can pretty much talk about any topic on skype and in real, however I'm sometimes frightened to tell her my desires and wishes because I'm worried that could hurt her. I know that she loves me more than anything else (so do I!) and that she is fully satisfied just with me as long as we can close the distance somewhen in the future.
Anyways, sometimes (or recently quite often) I have the desire in meeting other girls and get involved with them (No relationship with emotions, just sex). Especially when we can't be together. I have to mention that she is my first girlfriend I've ever had. I don't want to do that behind her back or even lie on her. No way, that's not my way!
So I want to discuss with her the idea of an open relationship while our time apart. So we could get involved in physical closeness with other people while still having that deep emotional bond which connects us. It's really difficult for me (in my young age) during such a long time apart. Recently I also watch regularly adult contents on the internet just to partially satisfy my sexual drive which is really high. But I know that is not good and I'm wasting a lot of time with that!
Actually last time we spent time together, we discussed kind of this topic on the edge... She asked me if I would be satisfied to only have sex with her my whole lifetime.
I told her honestly that sometimes I feel the desire to "try out" other girls and she didn't get angry by that answer at all. She just told me, that it's a difficult situation and that I should better do it now than later when we're maybe getting married. She seems to understand that it's difficult to suppress this feeling and that it will get even stronger if ignored. She also told me if I do something back home, I shouldn't tell her... But I wanna stay honest with her.
What's the right approach to open up our relationship so that we are still both lucky and can stay a couple as we've been so far?
Thanks for your help
laurencio
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