Unexpected benefits to LDRs?

[Radec]

Learning different cultures

[nic&matt]

Hmm...how do I state this?

It strips down the relationship to the core. LD relationships are groundwork, the bone, the base. You don't get pretty decorations to cover it up as some people do in "regular" relationships. You don't get to have pretty dinners and nice romantic flowers delivered all of the time. You are forced to see the relationship in it's purest form; you can see if it's working or not. It's either worth your time or it isn't. Many people that get their SO's with them everyday get so lost in the "honeymoon phase" and the shuffle that they can't see how broken the relationship really is to start with.

I know I'm doing my LDR because my other is worth it.

[Steph89]

Hmm...how do I state this?

It strips down the relationship to the core. LD relationships are groundwork, the bone, the base. You don't get pretty decorations to cover it up as some people do in "regular" relationships. You don't get to have pretty dinners and nice romantic flowers delivered all of the time. You are forced to see the relationship in it's purest form; you can see if it's working or not. It's either worth your time or it isn't. Many people that get their SO's with them everyday get so lost in the "honeymoon phase" and the shuffle that they can't see how broken the relationship really is to start with.

I know I'm doing my LDR because my other is worth it.

I totally agree with this. I also think being in an LDR improves your patience and it has also made me realise my priorities ..before I was in an LDR I never used to save any money and I'd spend it all on meaningless things like clothes etc that I didn't need. Now I use that money to see my boyfriend and I wouldn't have it any other way. It really has put everything in perspective.

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I keep my room more clean XD am I the only one? Or rather, I just shove everything out of the way.

[differentcountries]

I totally agree with this. I also think being in an LDR improves your patience and it has also made me realise my priorities ..before I was in an LDR I never used to save any money and I'd spend it all on meaningless things like clothes etc that I didn't need. Now I use that money to see my boyfriend and I wouldn't have it any other way. It really has put everything in perspective.

I really must ditto this. I am so stingy with money now, because I KNOW that everything I save or don't spend can go to travels and other things related to him. My goals are so different.

[I&A]

Learning different cultures

This, I absolutely love that he just changed my life for the moment I met him, I didn't know anything about his culture, and know I understand russian a lil' bit, a language I wouldn't ever choose to learn in the first place, I would have chosen portuguese or french

[Deleted]

This, I absolutely love that he just changed my life for the moment I met him, I didn't know anything about his culture, and know I understand russian a lil' bit, a language I wouldn't ever choose to learn in the first place, I would have chosen portuguese or french

Not just this, but I'm more culturally aware in general.

[kria]

You don't take as much for granted as many 'regular' (and I say 'regular' for lack of a better word) couples do. I'm sure all of us at some point has heard someone in a 'regular' relationship go on about how he/she didn't hold his/her hand for a certain amount of time and how upset he/she was. I always think to myself, "I would just be happy if he were close enough to hold my hand". Way too much is taken for granted by those who have never been in an LDR. I'm sure I have probably repeated something someone else has already said, and I apologize for not reading everyone's post to make sure. I just wanted to rant about that a little.

[Deleted]

You don't take as much for granted as many 'regular' (and I say 'regular' for lack of a better word) couples do. I'm sure all of us at some point has heard someone in a 'regular' relationship go on about how he/she didn't hold his/her hand for a certain amount of time and how upset he/she was. I always think to myself, "I would just be happy if he were close enough to hold my hand". Way too much is taken for granted by those who has never been in an LDR. I'm sure I have probably repeated something someone else has already said, and I apologize for not reading everyone's post to make sure. I just wanted to rant about that a little.

I couldn't agree more. I don't think most people fully understand what it's like to be in an LDR. When I hear CD couples say things like that, I just smile and compose a snarky response in my head

[kria]

I couldn't agree more. I don't think most people fully understand what it's like to be in an LDR. When I hear CD couples say things like that, I just smile and compose a snarky response in my head

I do the exact same thing unless I'm feeling quite vocal that day, but I try to keep my mouth shut.

[chizatlauren]

Maturity and Patience. I learned to be soooooo patient and wait for the day that I'll be waking up in my SO's arms every morning.