Feeling Optimistic! I think...

I'm kinda lazy to write out my whole introduction again because I wrote it in another in this post, as well as the last breakup we had -> https://members.lovingfromadistance....-feel-hopeless

So to continue my story I got on antidepressants, and got lots of help from friends. I feel so much better now I just...err I cant say I'm not sad as I was before but I've surely gotten better, and before I continue I just want to say my depression was not brought on by my girlfriend leaving me, it just really didn't help the situation I guess.

I'm feeling better I've gone out with a few girls (locally) and have definitely improved mentally and physically. My ex and I started talking about 3 months ago I believe and well its been fine...she found someone else which I'm not totally happy about but we've had some good conversations here and there. Anyways these last couple weeks we started talking more and two days ago we were talking and she seemed off and since we've been together for so long its so easy to tell when somethings different about us so I kept asking her whats wrong with her and finally she told me how her boyfriend was leaving to Florida for school next month and I guess he didn't tell her for some reason and she found out about it, which made her upset so there relationship is kinda in a weird state. He also said that we should enjoy this relationship till I leave, so whatever that means I try not to think about it...Anyways I told her before all of this that I recently broke it off with one relationship I was having and she seemed kinda excited about that....

She later asked me what was bugging me because she can read me too easily, I confessed all of my feelings that I've been hiding from her and that I didn't really care to go out with her this moment or next month or even next year I just wanted to know if there was ever a chance for me...and if not I wanted to stop talking to her because it was hurting more than doing good. She took it very well and she told me a lot of feelings that she had for me, stuff I haven't heard in forever, it felt so amazing to hear certain words and phrases come out of her mouth. Of course it was nothing like I love you but that I really meant so much to her and how she never wants me to leave her, and that I was her best friend etc etc...

I'm honestly falling in love with her all over again and shes changed a lot too, which I love, just absolutely everything about her I adore. I'm also planning on moving to Norway hopefully by next summer so we will be a bit closer haha, Idk I really have come to the conclusion that I'm absolutely in love with this girl, and I know I'm young and maybe I haven't found that right person yet but my ex is just too amazing and I want to spend everything on her. I would definitely consider my self one of those hopeless romantics which maybe that's blurring my sight in this whole situation.

I guess I'm not asking for help but I want to know what you guys think, your opinions and ideas. Because my friends don't want me to be with her and definitely not my family, but I went into that relationship with my depression and I feel like that didn't help me nor the relationship and cause us to have all of these problems to begin with. I feel better, I feel optimistic about us, I feel like things can work, I know I can really trust her and I won't make the same mistakes again ugh I'm so pathetic ...haha

Thanks everyone for your help, I really appreciate anything!

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First of all, glad to see you around and that you've been feeling better of late!

I find this a little bit odd. Even though her boyfriend is moving to Florida, does she still want to be in a relationship with him? If the answer is 'yes', then you should step back from your ex and her boyfriend. You said their relationship was in a 'weird state'...what does this mean? Nonetheless, you should support her, but I think you should give her some space especially if she wants to a continue a relationship with her boyfriend.

Hope I helped.

-Lori

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She says she still loves him and yea she wants to be with him but I don't feel like he feels the same way I could be wrong! I mean of course I'm not saying I love you or anything I'm sending her emails and trying to make sure shes doing ok. Of course I don't want her to be with this guy I mean if he is better than me and she is happier with him than I then of course I want her to be with him even though it hurts... But you are right I should be supportive of her in this situation....

Thanks for the advice Lori!

[Yaaamiii]

I'm not gonna say that you're too young to know what love is, sometimes I find that young people can know what love is, too. If this is your first love, it might be that you're finding it hard to move on because well, she was the first girl you truly fell in love with. I agree with Lori, you should figure out where she stands with her boyfriend FIRST. THEN, even if they end up not pursing a LDR, you should give her space to move on from that. But, I also wouldn't hope that things go the way you want them to, because if they don't you might have put too much hope into what could have been and you'll end up hurt again.

Hope that made sense...

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I completely agree with you, I don't want to rush into another relationship with her, just because well the other times we did they didn't work out so well, I want us both to have huge interests in getting back together and perhaps just to have some time as best friends if they break up. I'm prepared if it hurts me, I've been hurt so many times especially in this relationship that it won't affect me as badly. I guess I just really want to pursue her in the future idk, I just really want to see her again...

Thanks a lot Yaaamiii! I appreciate it!