Hi everyone! This is my 1st post on here, so a little nervous!
I am getting a little stressed out as this will be our 1st Christmas together and also the longest amount of time we have spent together. We have only spent 4/5 days together, the last time was Oct and before that was in June.
My BF still hasn't booked flights yet so no idea what day he is arriving! We spoke last night and ended up having a small row, as he said he was stressed as he hasn't been paid yet so no money to book flights. I offered to book the flights but he declined and said he wants to pay for them himself. I stupidly said "You are definately coming for xmas?" which as you can imagine he was annoyed I had asked this. He said I feel like I'm putting pressure on him and if I do it again he will walk away. I said I don't like threats or blackmail and then I got upset. He said do you still want me to come for xmas? I said yes of course I do.
He texted me about an hour later saying Hope you are ok, speak later xx. I sent a GM text (which he has read) but I haven't heard anything from him, so feeling a little upset
He always leaves everything to the last minute - whereas I like to have things booked and planned/organised!!
The other concern I have is that his children (both in 20's) don't know he is coming here yet, (they don't really know we are together) which bugs the hell out of me..... but when he came in June I received some abusive texts from his ex and daughter (24yr old) and I am worried the same will happen again this Xmas.
I have an 8yr old daughter and she and BF both think the world of each other, just like I we do of each other. There seems to be so many other obstacles on his side of things (which I won't go into) so on days like this I wonder if its really worth it. I love him so much, and I know he feels the same ...... but I just feel so confused.
I really admire and find comfort/inspiration from all of your stories and experiences... hence joining this site
Thank you for taking time to read this..... and words of wisdom would be welcome!
I am getting a little stressed out as this will be our 1st Christmas together and also the longest amount of time we have spent together. We have only spent 4/5 days together, the last time was Oct and before that was in June.
My BF still hasn't booked flights yet so no idea what day he is arriving! We spoke last night and ended up having a small row, as he said he was stressed as he hasn't been paid yet so no money to book flights. I offered to book the flights but he declined and said he wants to pay for them himself. I stupidly said "You are definately coming for xmas?" which as you can imagine he was annoyed I had asked this. He said I feel like I'm putting pressure on him and if I do it again he will walk away. I said I don't like threats or blackmail and then I got upset. He said do you still want me to come for xmas? I said yes of course I do.
He texted me about an hour later saying Hope you are ok, speak later xx. I sent a GM text (which he has read) but I haven't heard anything from him, so feeling a little upset
He always leaves everything to the last minute - whereas I like to have things booked and planned/organised!!
The other concern I have is that his children (both in 20's) don't know he is coming here yet, (they don't really know we are together) which bugs the hell out of me..... but when he came in June I received some abusive texts from his ex and daughter (24yr old) and I am worried the same will happen again this Xmas.
I have an 8yr old daughter and she and BF both think the world of each other, just like I we do of each other. There seems to be so many other obstacles on his side of things (which I won't go into) so on days like this I wonder if its really worth it. I love him so much, and I know he feels the same ...... but I just feel so confused.
I really admire and find comfort/inspiration from all of your stories and experiences... hence joining this site
Thank you for taking time to read this..... and words of wisdom would be welcome!
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