What was your 'selling point'?

[Periwinkle]

We sent each other good morning pictures every morning after we got together. He sent me this one where he was smiling a huge smile and I could see the happiness in his eyes - that definitely did it for me.

[Neia0202]

I think for me it was when I made him a drawing for his birthday. I had spent over a week on it and I wanted it to be absolutely perfect. Once it was finished I kinda realised I probably wouldn't have put so much effort into something for just anyone, especially not someone whom I'd known for just a couple of months (and only online).

[Mcayon]

Well, it's kinda simple I guess. We had known each other for a while, and with time we realized we liked each other, but we kept it to ourselves until we came to a point where we both admitted our feelings and on having a crush on each other. That was just over 6 months ago. :3

[Ejoriah]

We had met as friends and felt chemistry, we had spent a night together but I was still unsure of whether we should date. We were staying over a mutual friend's and sleeping in the same room (separate beds). He tucked me in, kissed my forehead, and told me that he was so sure that he wanted to date me, he would wait as long as it took for me to sort through my feelings and make up my mind. That if he couldn't date me then he'd just stay single for a while. That was the moment when I knew I had to give him a chance, because he was willing to wait and be patient.

That was over a year ago and he still does things that reaffirm my choice as the best one I could make

[jana89]

For me it was probably the very first moment I saw him I will never forget the feeling I had ... The second one was when we talked about one of my favourite books "Crime and Punishment" by Dostoyevsky and he made some interesting points and in my head I was like: Damn, I found a guy with whom I can talk about literature. If you are book freak as me, you find such a thing vital

[mellif]

We had been talking for a couple months, with a group of other friends on Skype-- but we didn't have much 1-on-1 communication besides a few times. And he also had a girlfriend at the time.

Anyway, in our skype group chat, he mentioned he had never seen Twilight. I'm not a fan of the movie, but I playfully suggested that we watch the movie together. We did, just the two of us since nobody else wanted to see it. We used a free movie streaming site and clicked 'play' at the same time while being on voice call. We laughed together at the cliches and bad writing, and, at the end of the movie when the Iron & Wine song played during the prom scene, a part of me was like "hey, this guy is really cool. I wanna know all about this guy." And it all somehow came together from there.

I realized I loved him a few days before we started dating, but it was a subtle realization, as in I can't really remember the exact moment.

[princessmaria]

I guess, from the very beginning he "sold" me by being so ridiculously charming and passionate. I didn't feel any super intense feelings for him until way later though.

It was three or five months into our relationship (somewhere around there). I had a dream that he'd come to visit me, and in my dream I was crying and holding him because he told me he could only stay for five minutes. It was such an intense, emotionally powerful dream; I woke up feeling like I had a sob stuck in my throat. I signed on Skype and told him I loved him. He told me he loved me before then but it takes me an awful long time to open up to people and he was no exception. It's like my dream forced me to acknowledge those feelings and it made me feel so sickeningly vulnerable. I'm glad I had the dream and I'm glad I faced my fears.

[MZVIRGO82]

Fellow lefty as well

I guess what sold me was how we just seemed to "click" when we finally met. At this point we shared our feelings for one another and was consistent in terms of talking everyday, but when we finally met-everything just felt right. It felt like this was the person I am supposed to be with. Although he was the one to first say "I love you" my feelings were definitely mutual.HE just beat me to the punch as far as actually saying it to one another.

[melarie]

Two moments stand out for me. Not sure which came first...

1. I had lied to him about something. It's something that I've told everyone I knew IRL for a couple years. I guess this itself has two moments, first when I realized I had to tell him the truth. Why? Because I had to have him in my life, and that meant I had to be honest. And second, when I told him I was sooo nervous he was going to hate me for lying and never want to talk to me again, and instead he totally understood, said he was relieved by it, and then came clean about something he had fibbed a little about. I just couldn't believe that not only had this amazing guy forgiven me but he understood. He got why I did it, and was able to just accept it.

2. I was having a lot of issues in school and I wanted to transfer to an online one. Well, everyone was giving me tons of shit about it. My parents thought it was weak, my friends were mad I was leaving them, the school staff I talked to though I was giving up as well, or that I was being bullied and was afraid to come forward. No one could just accept that I wasn't happy there. Except him. He always said to do what I felt was best, not what I was being told was best for me. That only I could make this decision and that I had to do it for myself if I thought it would make me happiest. Instead of telling me I was giving up, he saw the strength it took to tell everyone to fuck off and take that opportunity to fix things for myself. and I just knew that he loved me, because all he cared about was that I wasn't miserable anymore, but he still didn't push me into anything.

[Zapookie]

When we talked for hours about anything and everything and I didn't get bored of him or his jokes. Thats when I realised it was love.

[charly]

First there was the moment I spotted him doing his job at the locks. Struck by lightning haha.

Then after 2 weeks of secret peeking and even calling my mom to tell her about this wonderfull guy I didn't dare to talk to (NEVER talked with her about guys before! and never had any problems chatting up guys either) he kissed me on our campfire-date: that's when I realised that I wasn't going to let him go anywhere

[blankita719]

I'm Australian...

Ok, that might actually work in Sweden.

Ha! Tooki - that works on American girls too We love accents!

My moment was on our first "date". He took me out shopping for the day with his son, who wasn't quite 2 years old yet. He was pushing him in the stroller and we got stopped by a guy he knew in the mall. While they were catching up, the guy asked if we were my SO's family and words can not describe how much I wanted him to say yes. That was my moment when I realized I was in love with this guy. He took a total stranger out with him as a favor to his ex, spent the day in a mall (he hates shopping), let me spend time with his son and we had talked so much I felt like I had known him forever. So that was my selling point on him. Originally
There really was no selling point the 2nd time. I picked him up from the airport, we kissed, 3 and a half years later, here we are still.

[LadyDaemon]

As some others said I think it was multiple moments. However,I think the moment that really sold me was when we finally met for the first time. He treated me with the utmost respect,he held me,held my hand and kissed me in public. I know those seem like small things,but it was just the fact that I finally found someone who wanted me for me and not for my body. It was also the fact that he wasn't ashamed to be around me and for me that was big. I know most people don't settle real well with a sexy skinny guy dating a not so sexy chunky girl,but he didn't care. He loves me anyway,fluff and all!

[Deleted]

I made a group for all of you left-handed people. XD

Zapookie, I agree! It's hard to hold a conversation with me, but he has the patience to do so. My SO has the great quality of being a good listener, while I'm not so good at that myself.

[Ahava]

As a few of you have said, I also find there are many moments. And new ones keep coming! Like today on my way to work and at work I just had this awesome feeling inside and had to text him to tell him I love him and that he means a lot to me.
He had me at "Hi, how are you?" on the first day we talked online.
He's lovely eyes and smile did it for me and still keep doing it for me <3
His sence of humour and the fact that he wasn't in any hurry, we took our time to get to know each other. Also the fact that he unlike other guys didn't start making any sexual hints etc. I think it took a month of friendship etc before we started flirting.

But anyway to the actual question, there was this one moment or an actual day in the beginning of August 2012. We'd been chatting, emailing, texting since June 10th and then I phoned him for the first time the evening before and we spoke for a couple of hours (I had trouble understanding his accent) and both ended up having a sore ear & an arm, but it was fun. So the next day (it was a Saturday) I had this overwhelming feeling inside me and I was unable to concerntrate on anything just thinking about him and smiling. I then in the evening told him in a text (we were texting a lot that day) that I think I may have a crush on him and he replied that he's rather smitten himself. Not too long after that (a couple weeks) I booked tickets to go and meet him.

Our first kiss was really good too