Do You Want To Break Up With Him/Her?

[TwoThree]

Daily, actually. For all kinds of reasons, but mostly ones that don't pertain to the relationship itself.

[kayla_622]

Never. The thought has never crossed my mind. I am so happy with my SO. There are never doubts or thoughts that make me question him or our relationship.

With my ex I did constantly though. He didn't want to commit and wanted to wait years for us to even make a life together. We constantly fought over little things. I keep wanting to break up with him but, it was my first relationship and I wanted to make it work and I was afraid to let him go.

[Bluejay Belle]

Daily, actually. For all kinds of reasons, but mostly ones that don't pertain to the relationship itself.

Me too. I also think "what would I do if I stuck this in my cornea?" every time I see the box of push pins we have, (though I surely never plan to) so clearly I'm kind of an odd bird.

[emsimes]

There have definitely been times where I've thought, "The distance is so hard, I don't know how much longer I can do this."
But, I couldnt imagine my life without him. I love him so much, and even being 6,000 miles apart, I don't want anyone else!
We're not always so certain about our future, simply because we don't know how/when we can close the distance. So, we just take it day by day for now and see where life takes us.
I really hope that he will be in my future for a long time to come though <3

[US2CAN]

As long as you keep communicating with each other and keep a positive thought you can make the relationship work.

[mocha]

Unfortunately the idea has crossed my mind many times. Every other day lately, but I love him. The only thing that stops me is how much I love him and how much I know for a fact that he loves me. We don't argue ever not even when we broke up the first time, and we've only had one disagreement. Everything that's wrong can be fixed. That's why im sticking it out....

[Zephii]

Daily, actually. For all kinds of reasons, but mostly ones that don't pertain to the relationship itself.

You are more awesome than the odds against you. Keep holding on, you can do this!

[cecile02]

o so many times...unfortunately. But it is not because of LD directly. Ii is mostly because of him...nobody around him knows my existence...and he doesn't let me see any changes ...he doesn't admit our situation and he is more scared than me to believe in our future. But I still feel for him...and I trust he loves me too...I try not to push him, and say to myself, we'll see where this story will lead us. carpe diem.

[Malaga]

Me too. I also think "what would I do if I stuck this in my cornea?" every time I see the box of push pins we have, (though I surely never plan to) so clearly I'm kind of an odd bird.

Ha me too! I also imagine myself falling off the tallest floor every time I'm in a skyscraper or see one, but in a completely non-suicidal way. Just curious. And it gets me excited.....
I do sometimes think, "why do I even bother?" in frustration or anger, but it's a momentary thought and rarely for the same reason twice.

[Tooki]

Quite a bit. I generally reach the conclusion that I will be worse off in the long-run though.

[TaraMarie]

I have. But I can't live without him. And he can't live without me. And we are luckier than most. We see each other every month....sometimes more. I was born to love him. And I feel like I've wasted 20 years without him. I can't waste a minute more.

[Anonymous2]

An even better question to ask is: if you knew that your relationship might possibly end after all this time spent in an LDR, would you still keep at it?

My thoughts tend to be less about breaking up (because honestly, I think losing him completely would hurt far worse than any LD issue) and more about what will happen when it comes time to close the distance. What if we go through this entire time, with all the frustration/loneliness/waiting, and then don't end up taking our relationship to the next level? I'm not one of those girls who plans her life according to her biological clock, but by the end of this period of time spent LD we will have been together for 5-6 years. As someone who wants to start a family, I'm more inclined to worry about the little things that would make a more serious relationship not work...especially since the distance makes those things much more apparent!

[Moon]

An even better question to ask is: if you knew that your relationship might possibly end after all this time spent in an LDR, would you still keep at it?

My thoughts tend to be less about breaking up (because honestly, I think losing him completely would hurt far worse than any LD issue) and more about what will happen when it comes time to close the distance. What if we go through this entire time, with all the frustration/loneliness/waiting, and then don't end up taking our relationship to the next level? I'm not one of those girls who plans her life according to her biological clock, but by the end of this period of time spent LD we will have been together for 5-6 years. As someone who wants to start a family, I'm more inclined to worry about the little things that would make a more serious relationship not work...especially since the distance makes those things much more apparent!

Yeah, but EVERY relationship has the possibility of ending, and in fact, it's likely. You usually will go through several relationships before finding someone permanently. LDR or CDR, relationships end, but does that mean it's not worth the risk? That's what you have to ask yourself, I think.

[Ahava]

Instead of focusing on the end bit in the future (closing the distance) and worrying if we will make it, I think we should enjoy the journey, the "now".

[differentcountries]

Yes, how to make the "now "better. And every good thing that happens in the now, might build something towards the future. Realistically, especially international relocation takes a long time. If you improve your relationship and your lives apart that can only be a good thing.