Hello,
I am a long time lurker of the LFAD forums and I guess I just need a place to get my story out and hope for some support.
I met my now ex girlfriend 2 and a half years ago on an online forum. We clicked instantly and fell in love very quickly. She lives in the USA and I'm in England. Anyway, in the first year of our relationship she cheated on me with someone she met from the same forum we met on. She told me it was a mistake and begged me for a second chance. I agreed, reluctantly and without trust. My first mistake. I visited her twice and each visit was like a fairy tale, but when we were apart the trust issues resurfaced. I wanted an end to the distance and she could never give me a solid answer as to whether she would ever move here. She was emotionally abusive. I believe she fell out of love with me when she cheated on me but didn't have the guts to do the right thing and let me go.
Anyway, towards the end it was horrible and I asked if there was ever a way that we could end the distance. She said she would never move to England. It broke my heart and I told her that she would likely never visit me let alone move here. She kept promising to visit but never did. I told her it wasn't fair that I was hanging on waiting for something that would never happen and broke up with her. It hurt a lot but I know it was the right thing to do. She wanted to stay friends so I agreed.
A week later she's in love with the person she cheated on me with a year before. Apparently they have been "best friends" all that time even though my girlfriend said she promised not to speak to the as my trust red flags were flying high. Now they both post all over the forum I frequent about how in love they are and everyone is congratulating them.
I have temporarily stopped myself from going to the forum but I need to get support from the people I know there. It doesn't seem fair that they can upset me every time I log in. I want to get over it, I want to get past it but it feels like a betrayal. She lied to me about talking to the person she cheated on me with. I feel used and worthless. I guess I just don't know what to do now.
I am a long time lurker of the LFAD forums and I guess I just need a place to get my story out and hope for some support.
I met my now ex girlfriend 2 and a half years ago on an online forum. We clicked instantly and fell in love very quickly. She lives in the USA and I'm in England. Anyway, in the first year of our relationship she cheated on me with someone she met from the same forum we met on. She told me it was a mistake and begged me for a second chance. I agreed, reluctantly and without trust. My first mistake. I visited her twice and each visit was like a fairy tale, but when we were apart the trust issues resurfaced. I wanted an end to the distance and she could never give me a solid answer as to whether she would ever move here. She was emotionally abusive. I believe she fell out of love with me when she cheated on me but didn't have the guts to do the right thing and let me go.
Anyway, towards the end it was horrible and I asked if there was ever a way that we could end the distance. She said she would never move to England. It broke my heart and I told her that she would likely never visit me let alone move here. She kept promising to visit but never did. I told her it wasn't fair that I was hanging on waiting for something that would never happen and broke up with her. It hurt a lot but I know it was the right thing to do. She wanted to stay friends so I agreed.
A week later she's in love with the person she cheated on me with a year before. Apparently they have been "best friends" all that time even though my girlfriend said she promised not to speak to the as my trust red flags were flying high. Now they both post all over the forum I frequent about how in love they are and everyone is congratulating them.
I have temporarily stopped myself from going to the forum but I need to get support from the people I know there. It doesn't seem fair that they can upset me every time I log in. I want to get over it, I want to get past it but it feels like a betrayal. She lied to me about talking to the person she cheated on me with. I feel used and worthless. I guess I just don't know what to do now.
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