Hello everyone,
I am in longdistance relationship since 2 years. We met as students in student dorm. He was exchange student, and was suppose to come and live with me as soon as his University ended (in 6 more months). Sadly he had some problems with the University which made him stay in his country for additional year. I visited him, we spend Christmas together with his family. We agreed that distance was rough so I took one semester off from my studies and moved to South America to be with him for almost 6 months, afterwards I made it possible for him to come back for me and spend additional 2 months together in Europe. He left just 3 weeks ago and it was said he is suppose to come and live with me here in July. Now under another circumstances caused by his university we are forced to be away from eachother until beginning of 2015. I offered him the possibility to come to Europe and take his bachelor degree over here, even help him pay for the bigger part of tuition fee. Sadly he doesn't want to come, cause he thinks since he started his university there, he should end it there, no matter the fact that its gonna keep us away for almost a year without seeing eachother.
Right now I feel at the crossroad. I've waited for him for so much, I moved to another contintent and postponed my own career just to be with him. And when he was still here he promised he would do everything for us to be together as soon as possible. He never denied coming here and taking his degree here. Now today I found it he will not come here, even if he is given the opportunity. I love him soooo much, and we've worked so much for the past years to be together, even with all of the obstacles along the way. But at this point I don't know what to do. The longer we are away the harder it gets. We've just spend 8 months of living together and to face a year away, while being alone doesn't feel optimal. He is so focused on his studies, we rarely have time to just sit on Skype or talk together. The only possiblity he sees for us to be together sooner is if I postpone my own career for another semester and move to be with him in South America. I am at the crossroad. I see that despite what he use to say, he won't come to finish the degree here (he won't be postponing his graduation, no matter where he takes it, he will graduate same time). Postponing my own career just after I started study again and all the costs of going over and living in South America are beyond my limit. At the same time I know if we stay away without seeing eachother until beginning of this year, then this relationship will suffer and it might not survive it this time.
Does anybody has any advices? Any experience from situations like that?
I am in longdistance relationship since 2 years. We met as students in student dorm. He was exchange student, and was suppose to come and live with me as soon as his University ended (in 6 more months). Sadly he had some problems with the University which made him stay in his country for additional year. I visited him, we spend Christmas together with his family. We agreed that distance was rough so I took one semester off from my studies and moved to South America to be with him for almost 6 months, afterwards I made it possible for him to come back for me and spend additional 2 months together in Europe. He left just 3 weeks ago and it was said he is suppose to come and live with me here in July. Now under another circumstances caused by his university we are forced to be away from eachother until beginning of 2015. I offered him the possibility to come to Europe and take his bachelor degree over here, even help him pay for the bigger part of tuition fee. Sadly he doesn't want to come, cause he thinks since he started his university there, he should end it there, no matter the fact that its gonna keep us away for almost a year without seeing eachother.
Right now I feel at the crossroad. I've waited for him for so much, I moved to another contintent and postponed my own career just to be with him. And when he was still here he promised he would do everything for us to be together as soon as possible. He never denied coming here and taking his degree here. Now today I found it he will not come here, even if he is given the opportunity. I love him soooo much, and we've worked so much for the past years to be together, even with all of the obstacles along the way. But at this point I don't know what to do. The longer we are away the harder it gets. We've just spend 8 months of living together and to face a year away, while being alone doesn't feel optimal. He is so focused on his studies, we rarely have time to just sit on Skype or talk together. The only possiblity he sees for us to be together sooner is if I postpone my own career for another semester and move to be with him in South America. I am at the crossroad. I see that despite what he use to say, he won't come to finish the degree here (he won't be postponing his graduation, no matter where he takes it, he will graduate same time). Postponing my own career just after I started study again and all the costs of going over and living in South America are beyond my limit. At the same time I know if we stay away without seeing eachother until beginning of this year, then this relationship will suffer and it might not survive it this time.
Does anybody has any advices? Any experience from situations like that?
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