It's over :*(

[standingoutsidethefire]

He said he's not strong enough to do this anymore. It's over. I've lost the love of my life and my bestfriend. I have no use for this forum anymore. I will never allow myself to get involved in something like this again.

[Petals]

I'm sorry to hear that( (hugs)). Give yourself time to get over this event...It will not be easy but you will feel better in time. Be good to you ((hugs))

[squeeker]

I'm so sorry. Give yourself time to heal and recover from this and be good to yourself. I hope things get better for you soon.

[differentcountries]

I am sorry. It must hurt so bad. Loosing love is so unpleasent and meaningless! In time, though, most losses are gains. You will dear to love again. All the best

[ittybittypilot]

I'm so, so sorry. I've been through what you just want through many times. I will say these words of encouragement....even though it's very painful and hurtful, you will grow from this, become stronger, learn more about yourself, and be so much better prepared for the next wonderful man that God finds for you. It's difficult to believe now, but take a deep breath, treat yourself, keep busy, and in a month you will be a thousand times better person. I know, I'm getting good at it. ;-)

[Deleted]

I'm really sorry to hear this

I kind of hate doing this, but I'm quoting myself from a previous thread:

"I thought my previous SO was "the one", which was really dumb because I'm young and naïve and well...you know the rest. I gave myself some time to get over him, spend time with my friends, and learn to appreciate all of the other awesome people in my life, something I had foolishly and selfishly forgotten to do while I was in a relationship.

A few weeks later, I met somebody who is a thousand times better than my previous SO. I wasn't even looking for another relationship, but then I started to develop feelings for this guy. Whether my relationship with this new guy progresses to something or not, I found an awesome friend. This is kind of like relationship 2.0, because I get another chance...I moved waaaaaaay too fast with my previous SO. When I told my aunt about our breakup, she said to use what I had learned in my previous relationship in my future ones. And that's exactly what I'm doing now. I'm taking this time to try to get to know this new guy better. Don't think of your past relationships as a waste of time, one: because you can't possibly make up for that time, and two: because you certainly learned something.

Lesson: there are always people out there. And this new guy proved to me that there are far better people out there. It is possible to love again. Take time for yourself, do something you love to do, appreciate the other people in your life. You're a kickass person, with or without him. Keep an open heart, you will find love someday <3"

I'm also going to add that it really hurts at first. But life DOES get better, even if it seems like there's no light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes you have to get up, brush the gravel off, and turn the flashlight on.

Keeping you in my thoughts.

[standingoutsidethefire]

Thank you everyone. It's touching to have so many people share kind words with a perfect stranger such as myself. It's just really unfortunate that it's come to this. He was so good to me, and in my eyes, good for me. And the fact that the distance is the only thing that prevented us from being together and making this work sucks. I guess I'm just too stubborn and need to learn when and how to let go. He wants us to be friends, he said he doesn't want to lose me completely. What is everyone's thoughts on this? I feel like a "clean cut", a total separation is the only thing that will allow us to move on and away from each other. I feel like if we continue to communicate those feelings we have will never go away. At the same time, he's such a HUGE part of my life, he truly is my best friend. And I feel as though..I already have to lose him as my love...I don't want to lose him as a friend on top of it all.

[Miasmata]

I wish I could give more than the sympathy of an online stranger and a few encouraging words Really sorry it didn't work out for you. LDRs are tough and it can be a huge toll on everyone involved, sometimes too much. You can be proud that you gave it a shot, and that you made the experience. It wasn't easy, but you gave it your best.

Regarding staying friends, that CAN work, but it depends entirely on you two. In order to prevent things from getting too straining or awkward, you have to be very honest with each other, and you need to communicate about your feelings and wishes. If the romantic feelings are just too strong and get in the way, then a clean cut might be for the best, but if you think you can support each other on a platonic level without jealousy or emotional blackmail, you should definitely try it.