I think i made a big mistake. Not necessarily looking for answers, just needed my LDR friends to lean on.
Last night I was iMessaging my boyfriend (he's 8 hours ahead). Things have been going good (especially considering he's having alot of problems with work, family, etc) so we are dealing with VERY high stress in our relationship. I commented on how well it's gone with all things considered.
Then, I made a comment that he took wrong...i won't go into details, it will take too long, and is irrelevant. Anyway, I hurt his feelings, I insulted his character. I definitely did not intend to. Looking back on what I typed, I worded it horribly and he was right to be hurt. I apologized....he went on and on about his character....and I apologized again and again. He said he had to go into down, would chat later. I've not heard from him since.
Now, he could be totally ok...I stated my "case" and explained what I meant and that I was stupid to word it how I did. He said he understood, but never accepted my apology verbally. Normally I hear from him in the morning. He never messaged me.
Anyone have the same problem? We cannot speak on the phone, and his internet connect is too poor to handle anything other than iMessage (as it is, takes sometimes an hour for the message to be delivered to his ipad).
I'm sad. I hope it's just me being overly sensitive and he's fine. Men seem to handle such things better than women (in general).
My low self-esteem does not help matters.
Last night I was iMessaging my boyfriend (he's 8 hours ahead). Things have been going good (especially considering he's having alot of problems with work, family, etc) so we are dealing with VERY high stress in our relationship. I commented on how well it's gone with all things considered.
Then, I made a comment that he took wrong...i won't go into details, it will take too long, and is irrelevant. Anyway, I hurt his feelings, I insulted his character. I definitely did not intend to. Looking back on what I typed, I worded it horribly and he was right to be hurt. I apologized....he went on and on about his character....and I apologized again and again. He said he had to go into down, would chat later. I've not heard from him since.
Now, he could be totally ok...I stated my "case" and explained what I meant and that I was stupid to word it how I did. He said he understood, but never accepted my apology verbally. Normally I hear from him in the morning. He never messaged me.
Anyone have the same problem? We cannot speak on the phone, and his internet connect is too poor to handle anything other than iMessage (as it is, takes sometimes an hour for the message to be delivered to his ipad).
I'm sad. I hope it's just me being overly sensitive and he's fine. Men seem to handle such things better than women (in general).
My low self-esteem does not help matters.
I know when I have said something that upset my boyfriend, he has to listen to music or otherwise not have me talking to him before he talks again. Though he is on Skype so I at least know he is there. I hope you get an answer back soon. I would try not to worry if I were you, it doesn't help anything. :P Though I know it's hard not to, so just relax and try and distract yourself until you hear from him okay. 
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