Yet again I find myself here completely unsure of what to make of my relationship. My SO and I have yet to meet in person, he's too scared to come here, and he won't agree to me going to him. FML
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Yeah, it could be understandable about him not wanting to come to you. But it's a bit of a red flag that he won't let you go to him. What are his reasons?Last edited by Noodle; July 1, 2014, 01:43 PM.
Met online: 04.19.14
Became a couple: 04.23.14
First Visit: 08.09.14-08.15.14
Second Visit: 12.17.14-12.28.14
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Originally posted by velkoria View PostI'm sorry this is happening =( have you discussed with him why he won't let you come visit? Or why he is cscared of visiting you?
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Sometimes the thing that feels right is not right at all. Because they are just feelings, not solutions. I can understand he wants to be the man and go. But does he still want to be the man if it makes him waste away what you have? That is not manly, just insecurity.I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
- Paulo Coelho, "Eleven minutes"
"Bız yüzyılın aşkı vardır" - We have dated since Sept. 2013. To see our full story, click here https://members.lovingfromadistance....and-our-visits
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Originally posted by differentcountries View PostSometimes the thing that feels right is not right at all. Because they are just feelings, not solutions. I can understand he wants to be the man and go. But does he still want to be the man if it makes him waste away what you have? That is not manly, just insecurity.
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Tell him that even if he is scared, he will need to do something concrete to show you that he is willing. And even if he might be willing to book in August when he feels it is more right for him, it is not right for his wallet, and that practical concerns have a part in love life, too. If he is worried that he might have to change the dates, he can pay extra for a cansellation/right to change dates fee.I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
- Paulo Coelho, "Eleven minutes"
"Bız yüzyılın aşkı vardır" - We have dated since Sept. 2013. To see our full story, click here https://members.lovingfromadistance....and-our-visits
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Definitely tell him about your worries, and that he needs to be honest with you. Couples can work through a lot of issues together and have as much patience for each other as necessary - But for that, there needs to be a foundation of trust and honesty. You can't support him if you don't know what's wrong and have to fear it's something that could damage your relationship. Being scared of big steps and commitment is not unusual, but that's what you have a partner for - To help you find confidence in yourself. He needs to let you close or he definitely has deeper issues he needs to work out.
I hope you can try to communicate with him about this. He needs to understand that you are always there for him, but you have to know what's really going on to help. Don't let yourself be strung along.
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Am I the only one who sees the red flags? Sweetie, don't sit around and wait. If he won't come to you (and you KNOW he won't), and he doesn't want YOU to go to him, then there is no sense in waiting. You are young. Enjoy your life. Tell him you will be at the airport should he ever arrive, but in the meantime go have a great summer!sigpic
I love him. Forever. And every day after that.
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Originally posted by TaraMarie View PostAm I the only one who sees the red flags? Sweetie, don't sit around and wait. If he won't come to you (and you KNOW he won't), and he doesn't want YOU to go to him, then there is no sense in waiting. You are young. Enjoy your life. Tell him you will be at the airport should he ever arrive, but in the meantime go have a great summer!
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