Evening all,
I am trying to make sure this is not just another 'how do you deal with the post visit blues' type thread, as I know that they affect every-one and it is part of the territory when in a LDR and only able to see each other infrequently...
But in this case it is more a celebration of having feelings confirmed.
I just got back on the 1st from a 12 day visit to see where we both stood, and to ask some of the tougher questions surrounding our future together and what it will mean to us both. Thankfully we have agreed to make our relationship 'Official' and do see a future in it, even with the irritating VISA requirements that the US demand. She agreed in principle she would be prepared to marry again, even though both of us feel it is too soon for that, and as such our relationship is kinda 'on hold' in terms of altering the current status Quo, of me living here, and her there. But in time we will most likely be going down the K visa route, unless by chance my work situation means I can get sponsored that way.
Unfortunately due to holiday (or lack thereof) there will be no more visits now until next April, when she is going to try to get over her fear of flying over water, and come for our birthday's..... So I have to wait 6 months to see her again, which is going to be really tough, as I miss her like crazy and her kids and dog too. My house seems very quiet and dead in comparison with just me in it!
I am really sure that the next few months are going to be really tough, her dad is terminally ill, my own has just been diagnosed with two types of cancer - my folks hit me with that bombshell by driving over and bringing me supper a few hours after I got home to tell me - and as we both go through the inevitable emotional distress it is going to be really hard not having the support we will both crave from each other. But we do both feel that if we can get through the next 12 months and come out the other side still feeling happy and as we currently do for each other, then this relationship is good for a long time to come....
I am still nervous and excited about the future, but feeling a lot less overwhelmed by it all than I did a month or so ago, and now know that we are both in this for the long haul, and that there is no rush to sort out the all the details. but when the time is right I (we) will do so
I am trying to make sure this is not just another 'how do you deal with the post visit blues' type thread, as I know that they affect every-one and it is part of the territory when in a LDR and only able to see each other infrequently...
But in this case it is more a celebration of having feelings confirmed.
I just got back on the 1st from a 12 day visit to see where we both stood, and to ask some of the tougher questions surrounding our future together and what it will mean to us both. Thankfully we have agreed to make our relationship 'Official' and do see a future in it, even with the irritating VISA requirements that the US demand. She agreed in principle she would be prepared to marry again, even though both of us feel it is too soon for that, and as such our relationship is kinda 'on hold' in terms of altering the current status Quo, of me living here, and her there. But in time we will most likely be going down the K visa route, unless by chance my work situation means I can get sponsored that way.
Unfortunately due to holiday (or lack thereof) there will be no more visits now until next April, when she is going to try to get over her fear of flying over water, and come for our birthday's..... So I have to wait 6 months to see her again, which is going to be really tough, as I miss her like crazy and her kids and dog too. My house seems very quiet and dead in comparison with just me in it!
I am really sure that the next few months are going to be really tough, her dad is terminally ill, my own has just been diagnosed with two types of cancer - my folks hit me with that bombshell by driving over and bringing me supper a few hours after I got home to tell me - and as we both go through the inevitable emotional distress it is going to be really hard not having the support we will both crave from each other. But we do both feel that if we can get through the next 12 months and come out the other side still feeling happy and as we currently do for each other, then this relationship is good for a long time to come....
I am still nervous and excited about the future, but feeling a lot less overwhelmed by it all than I did a month or so ago, and now know that we are both in this for the long haul, and that there is no rush to sort out the all the details. but when the time is right I (we) will do so
. But it is good you are trying to be positive 
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