another "first meeting" and I am so nervous :(

[ronjaandbirk]

Hello all

I know this is super silly, but in 20 days my boyfriend comes visting me for the first time. Before it was always me travelling, and now I am super nervous about it.

I have huge abandonment issues in general, and with him especially because he has hurt me before. He has proven since then that he has changed alot and that I have every reason to trust in him and his love to me, but I still jump unto every reason i can find to think that he will leave me. We both know this is an issue and that I have to learn to trust him, and we are working on this.

However, now that he is coming to me for the first time, I am extremely scared and nervous and don't really know what to do I guess I'm just looking to vent a bit and for some moral support..

I guess I am scared that now that he is the one going through the ordeal of travelling (it's along trainride because it's the cheaper option to flying) he will realise that there is actual distance between us and then he will think an LDR is too hard after all.
I'm also scared that, being at my place, he will discover things about me he won't like (although I am very open to him about everything, this scares me alot.) I am scared he won't like my family and my friends and will chnage his opinion about me.

I know that this is mostly irrational thinking but I can't shake it. We have been together shortly and then broken up for 3 years before, and it was incredibly painful for both of us. I am just so scared of loosing him again

[NMakaveli]

Hii

I am new on here but i just want to tell you to not be stress. If he come see you that means he really love you and i don't think that your family or friend will change his mind. You saying that he might realise that there's distance between him and you, but i also think that he already knows that it won't be easy but i know you guys will close the distance one day

#StayStrong

[snow]

If anything, him travelling to be with you should show you that he is with you in this relationship. Travelling is expensive and you only do it, if you really want to.

He might find things in your room that he didn't know you had, but I doubt that there will be anything that would change his mind completely about you if you were always honest with him. I think you should stop worrying and just enjoying that he is visiting you! This is exciting!!

[ronjaandbirk]

you guys sound really logical haha thanks!!! <3 of course you are right its just so hard to believe when you only tell yourself .