Dear LFAD Community!
First and foremost I am so happy that I have found this forum online! I feel like I need to speak about this with a community that understands! In the "real world" too many people are quick to judge and lack the empathy to truly understand. A little about me, I am a third culture kid. My dad is from one country, my mom is from another and I spent 18 years of my life living in countries that were foreign to both of my parents and attending international schools all over the world. I met my best friend and we kept in touch over the years despite the physical distance, so I guess in that sense I am a bit of a vetran to long distance. Nonetheless, got tired of the dating scene in LA, she kept telling me to meet someone she thought would be perfect for me at her older sisters wedding. I kept saying no, three years later I said yes! I thought I will make a good friend, why not! It wasnt long before it was LOVE. I decided to move to Kampala Uganda after we discussed it and give it a go. He was all on board and just before i was going to leave he changed the plans and said I should keep all my stuff open here (accounts, leases etc) and just come for a visit. So I said okay, but suddenly i felt as though we were less serious. Also, now that the honeymoon blinders have come off i feel pissed off all the time. I always make talking to him a priority but it seems i can never reach him!! So frustrating because its bad enough we cant hold each other and other stuff
but i need to at least be able to talk to him on a bad day! Or to celebrate a good day with him. So now I am not even sure if it is worth it to fly across the world to meet...for what?! He doesn't seem as committed as me or as into this as me! Maybe I should cut my losses. He is smart, handsome and amazing but it doesn't feel good being the one making all the effort and all of the sacrifice. So i take a 3 week vacation and play house with him, that's all it is playing house. Either he shows me he is committed now or there's no point. My question is am i being too harsh?
First and foremost I am so happy that I have found this forum online! I feel like I need to speak about this with a community that understands! In the "real world" too many people are quick to judge and lack the empathy to truly understand. A little about me, I am a third culture kid. My dad is from one country, my mom is from another and I spent 18 years of my life living in countries that were foreign to both of my parents and attending international schools all over the world. I met my best friend and we kept in touch over the years despite the physical distance, so I guess in that sense I am a bit of a vetran to long distance. Nonetheless, got tired of the dating scene in LA, she kept telling me to meet someone she thought would be perfect for me at her older sisters wedding. I kept saying no, three years later I said yes! I thought I will make a good friend, why not! It wasnt long before it was LOVE. I decided to move to Kampala Uganda after we discussed it and give it a go. He was all on board and just before i was going to leave he changed the plans and said I should keep all my stuff open here (accounts, leases etc) and just come for a visit. So I said okay, but suddenly i felt as though we were less serious. Also, now that the honeymoon blinders have come off i feel pissed off all the time. I always make talking to him a priority but it seems i can never reach him!! So frustrating because its bad enough we cant hold each other and other stuff
but i need to at least be able to talk to him on a bad day! Or to celebrate a good day with him. So now I am not even sure if it is worth it to fly across the world to meet...for what?! He doesn't seem as committed as me or as into this as me! Maybe I should cut my losses. He is smart, handsome and amazing but it doesn't feel good being the one making all the effort and all of the sacrifice. So i take a 3 week vacation and play house with him, that's all it is playing house. Either he shows me he is committed now or there's no point. My question is am i being too harsh?
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