To plan his trip here in May is the thing that has given me strength and this morning when we talked and I'm starting to get a feeling that things are not going our way at all and our May is falling apart. First in the beginning of year his dad got into hospital and we were put off. Then SO moved to be with parents to help them out. We were supposed to book his tickets when he knows about father's health. Father is very weak and has recurrent infections and is medicated and his health is not improving. His mom is dealing very badly with the situation, she is living in the past and not accepting aging and all the changes. She's very stubborn and denies the obvious. She keeps saying soon everything is better when in reality she is not getting her husband back home any more. On top of that SO is fighting with brother who is criticizing everything SO does and the way he is trying to help the parents. In fact they had such a fight last night that SO was too upset to talk to me.
I don't know what to do. There is no room for our plans. There is no certainty other than we want to be together but no idea when and how. He is totally overwhelmed with his parents situation. And of course I can't visit him where he lives now because his family is in no condition to meet a future family member at the moment. He lives with his mom and I can't be there. I'm certainly not going over and staying some place without him. That would be really weird.
This situation is so hard to bear. There is nothing I can do to help. We can't plan anything. All our discussions are about his family and he can't get away and doesn't want to. I want him to do the right thing but it means that I have to wait and wait. His divorce is not moving because he is stuck in this situation. He's been separated soon 8 months but still married.
Am I selfish to want some kind of answers? I know he would be here soon if he could. Is this just another LDR thing, to wait out the so called bad times and hope for the best? We have no deadlines since it's impossible. I'm scared to think where we will be later this year if nothing moves forward. I know it's tough for him and it helps nothing to confront him because the only choices he has is leave his family in moment of need and be with me or stay to help them out and let our future wait.
I know there is no answer but I needed to get this out. Some days are better but right now feels there is so little hope and so much waiting. Where can I find encouragement?
I don't know what to do. There is no room for our plans. There is no certainty other than we want to be together but no idea when and how. He is totally overwhelmed with his parents situation. And of course I can't visit him where he lives now because his family is in no condition to meet a future family member at the moment. He lives with his mom and I can't be there. I'm certainly not going over and staying some place without him. That would be really weird.
This situation is so hard to bear. There is nothing I can do to help. We can't plan anything. All our discussions are about his family and he can't get away and doesn't want to. I want him to do the right thing but it means that I have to wait and wait. His divorce is not moving because he is stuck in this situation. He's been separated soon 8 months but still married.
Am I selfish to want some kind of answers? I know he would be here soon if he could. Is this just another LDR thing, to wait out the so called bad times and hope for the best? We have no deadlines since it's impossible. I'm scared to think where we will be later this year if nothing moves forward. I know it's tough for him and it helps nothing to confront him because the only choices he has is leave his family in moment of need and be with me or stay to help them out and let our future wait.
I know there is no answer but I needed to get this out. Some days are better but right now feels there is so little hope and so much waiting. Where can I find encouragement?
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