My Bf and I were supposed to spend this year at school together, he would spend Christmas break with me more than likely and would go home in the summer. We have been officially together for almost eight months. They have been the best months we say in each other's lives. He lives in Australia so the flights from the US are not cheap. Also this was probably going to be his last year at this school and we were adjusting to that knowledge. We both figured the time spent together would weigh out any more distance that we would have to endure and we would be older. We talked about how we were the love of each other's lives...we make each other undeniably happy and always support one another. That has been the 'plan' and all we talked about was no matter what we loved each other to make it work. We talked about never giving up but we were also never discouraged really by plans falling through like this.
Recently we have been enduring our longest time apart which is about two and half months. I have plans to visit him in a few weeks and will be meeting his family and friends and seeing the land and culture he lives in. We had originally planned on him coming back with me to come back to school, however unfortunately due to personal reasons...he will most likely not be coming back this semester. We adjusted to that, four-five months apart we were both willing to do.
However, due to monetary restrictions there is now a possibility that he might not come back in January either. This has started to change his perspective and I think he is beginning to worry about our relationship. He has always told me no matter what that we were trying and he wasn't giving up and he would always find a way to make it work and to keep together. But now I can feel him worrying more, and we revealed our insecurities of it failing or the other person feeling fizzled out on the relationship. I know he is even more worried because he has already endured one failed long distance relationship where the girl ended up breaking up with him, and they felt like they didn't know each other. He says now that we are still going to try, we are going to stay together but he wants to prepare me and to be realistic. He is worried we will never get to see each other and the money is going to be short. I can just tell how worried he is, and I need him to remember how he felt. He keeps talking about hoping it will work out, how worried he is, and that he always plans to come find me if something happens. He is just one jumbled mess. But for now we are focusing on just the relationship we have with hopes for january. I feel also as though his friends and family are influencing his decisions and actions. They do not know me, and have not met me. I am hopeful that this visit will change that. Also he is really devoted to what he wants to do in life, he knows I will support him but he worries that will also affect the relationship and visiting. This is something I feel like the family and friends may be telling him.
What I'm asking for is help to encourage him, and remind him all of the things we said to one another. I need to comfort him and assure him that everything will be alright. Has anyone else experienced this wall? Have you had this many plans fall through? And is this long of distance without physical contact plausible?
Advice wanted. Thank you for reading my mini novel.
Recently we have been enduring our longest time apart which is about two and half months. I have plans to visit him in a few weeks and will be meeting his family and friends and seeing the land and culture he lives in. We had originally planned on him coming back with me to come back to school, however unfortunately due to personal reasons...he will most likely not be coming back this semester. We adjusted to that, four-five months apart we were both willing to do.
However, due to monetary restrictions there is now a possibility that he might not come back in January either. This has started to change his perspective and I think he is beginning to worry about our relationship. He has always told me no matter what that we were trying and he wasn't giving up and he would always find a way to make it work and to keep together. But now I can feel him worrying more, and we revealed our insecurities of it failing or the other person feeling fizzled out on the relationship. I know he is even more worried because he has already endured one failed long distance relationship where the girl ended up breaking up with him, and they felt like they didn't know each other. He says now that we are still going to try, we are going to stay together but he wants to prepare me and to be realistic. He is worried we will never get to see each other and the money is going to be short. I can just tell how worried he is, and I need him to remember how he felt. He keeps talking about hoping it will work out, how worried he is, and that he always plans to come find me if something happens. He is just one jumbled mess. But for now we are focusing on just the relationship we have with hopes for january. I feel also as though his friends and family are influencing his decisions and actions. They do not know me, and have not met me. I am hopeful that this visit will change that. Also he is really devoted to what he wants to do in life, he knows I will support him but he worries that will also affect the relationship and visiting. This is something I feel like the family and friends may be telling him.
What I'm asking for is help to encourage him, and remind him all of the things we said to one another. I need to comfort him and assure him that everything will be alright. Has anyone else experienced this wall? Have you had this many plans fall through? And is this long of distance without physical contact plausible?
Advice wanted. Thank you for reading my mini novel.
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