Hi everyone,
I'm a 21 year old girl and my boyfriend is 28 years old. We've been in a LDR since November, 2015. We've known each other since last May. We became good friends through a penpal site and began skyping every week, sometimes twice a week.
In August, we met each other for the first time. He was living in one of the cities in my country attending a language school but even though we were in the same country, we were on opposite ends to each other even then.
In September, he came to where I live and spent two days with my family and I. We acted like a couple but nothing was official.
In October, he had to go home but about four days before he had to leave, he came to the city where I'm going to college. We talked about where this could go. He told me he loved me but we were unsure about how this would work as feelings could change as the distance grew. We decided we'd just be friends and see what the future held. He told me about one of his relationships which was an LDR and that ended badly..after hearing that I figured I'd have even less of a chance.
In November we were on skype like usual and he asked me to be his girlfriend.
He told me then that since going home his feelings have gotten much stronger and that he loves me more because he's missing me a lot.
A month after he went home he got a job. Since starting, he is working very long hours and he's exhausted..we talk once a day(through a text app) but sometimes we don't talk at all for a few days when he's busy - he goes to Japan for business. I'm trying to understand but I can't help but feel lonely when I hear nothing from him. It makes me feel like he doesn't care and that he'll suddenly break up with me. (I'm being irrational, I know)
We still talk at the weekends but I'm worried. I want to strengthen our relationship but I keep thinking about the future.
I mentioned it the past couple of times on skype and he doesn't understand why I keep bringing it up when we can't change the situation.. I can't help bringing it up, it's weighing on my mind a lot. I don't see how we can survive the distance(I'm the first year of my degree atm and I'm tied to Ireland until I'm finished which will be another 3 years) He told me that we just have to keep going.. He wants to return to Europe when his English improves and when he's saved up enough.
He told me that us dating was the last for him and that he'll date with me only. He told me that he endures it because he knows he'll meet me again and after this moment, we'll have a lot of time to be together. He's brought up marriage to me.
He told me that he'll wait for me and I trust him. I don't think he'd waste his time with me if he didn't see a future with me(considering his age)
He won't cheat on me - we talked about this. He only wants me.
This is my first relationship. He's dated two girls before long term.
I do love him, I love him a lot. I don't want us to break up.
I've saved my money since the summer and I have enough now to visit him in December 2016.
He likes it when I send him photos and tell him sweet things but I want to do more for him.
I'm a very affectionate person and its killing me I can't physically touch, hold him etc.
My questions are -
How do we survive this distance?
In your opinion, what can I do to improve this situation/make us feel more connected?
How do you get over not touching?
I'm a 21 year old girl and my boyfriend is 28 years old. We've been in a LDR since November, 2015. We've known each other since last May. We became good friends through a penpal site and began skyping every week, sometimes twice a week.
In August, we met each other for the first time. He was living in one of the cities in my country attending a language school but even though we were in the same country, we were on opposite ends to each other even then.
In September, he came to where I live and spent two days with my family and I. We acted like a couple but nothing was official.
In October, he had to go home but about four days before he had to leave, he came to the city where I'm going to college. We talked about where this could go. He told me he loved me but we were unsure about how this would work as feelings could change as the distance grew. We decided we'd just be friends and see what the future held. He told me about one of his relationships which was an LDR and that ended badly..after hearing that I figured I'd have even less of a chance.
In November we were on skype like usual and he asked me to be his girlfriend.
He told me then that since going home his feelings have gotten much stronger and that he loves me more because he's missing me a lot.
A month after he went home he got a job. Since starting, he is working very long hours and he's exhausted..we talk once a day(through a text app) but sometimes we don't talk at all for a few days when he's busy - he goes to Japan for business. I'm trying to understand but I can't help but feel lonely when I hear nothing from him. It makes me feel like he doesn't care and that he'll suddenly break up with me. (I'm being irrational, I know)
We still talk at the weekends but I'm worried. I want to strengthen our relationship but I keep thinking about the future.
I mentioned it the past couple of times on skype and he doesn't understand why I keep bringing it up when we can't change the situation.. I can't help bringing it up, it's weighing on my mind a lot. I don't see how we can survive the distance(I'm the first year of my degree atm and I'm tied to Ireland until I'm finished which will be another 3 years) He told me that we just have to keep going.. He wants to return to Europe when his English improves and when he's saved up enough.
He told me that us dating was the last for him and that he'll date with me only. He told me that he endures it because he knows he'll meet me again and after this moment, we'll have a lot of time to be together. He's brought up marriage to me.
He told me that he'll wait for me and I trust him. I don't think he'd waste his time with me if he didn't see a future with me(considering his age)
He won't cheat on me - we talked about this. He only wants me.
This is my first relationship. He's dated two girls before long term.
I do love him, I love him a lot. I don't want us to break up.
I've saved my money since the summer and I have enough now to visit him in December 2016.
He likes it when I send him photos and tell him sweet things but I want to do more for him.
I'm a very affectionate person and its killing me I can't physically touch, hold him etc.
My questions are -
How do we survive this distance?
In your opinion, what can I do to improve this situation/make us feel more connected?
How do you get over not touching?
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