She isn't sure if she want's a LDR.

[Cordath]

So there's this girl I met through deviantART who lives over in Wales. I'm in B.C., and that's a long bloody way apart, as I am sure you are aware. We've both liked each other for a long time, (years in fact), but only admitted it recently. Now that we both do know, she isn't sure if she want's a long distance relationship. Unfortunately, all the people she has dated locally have had a habit of just using her, and so she's admitted that part of her thinks that that is what I may be doing, or that me liking her is just a rebound from some other sort of relationship. Neither of those things is true in the slightest, but I don't blame her for thinking them considering how many times its happened to her. She proposed me going there to see her for a few weeks, and so I'm going to be doing that sometime next year. In case it may be useful, she is my younger by a few months. Does anyone have any ideas how I could possibly convince her that;
1. I'm not using her in any way.
2. That we can make a long distance relationship work?

Thanks

~Cordath

[Redheart14]

Once you've had your visit that might help her see what you are like when you are together. Just stay true to yourself and allow her time to get to know you. A LDR is not something you can convince someone of. It takes both parties to make it work. Just take things as it comes and let her get to know you. See how you both feel after your visit then see how you feel about entering a LDR after that.

[WarwickGuy]

The best way to convince her that you're not using her is to build trust. The best way will be when you visit her, but in the meantime you can build trust by talking to her regularly and supporting her if she decides to reveal any problems she's experiencing to you. And importantly, have fun together while you're apart, it won't be any good if you're both just worrying until you finally meet.