Hi all ,
i am a new poster here and i am seeking advice about my relationship.
Just a background about my relationship. I met my boyfriend on a facebook page ( he lives in Louisiana and i live in Toronto ) we have been together about a year and a half and have met twice already with him being the one that visited me. One thing to mention is that i come from a middle eastern background so dating for us ( well my father ) is a bit different which is why he does not know of my boyfriend yet. However , the second time he visited me my dad knew that a guy was coming to see me and i felt telling him about my significant other slowly is a better way to do it.
Another important factor to add is that he is younger than me by 4 years... im 25
The second time he came to see me was late July so not too long ago however a bit before that we started having a bit of issues one being he said he started thinking about his ex whom he was with for a long time before me but when we met everything became normal again between us we just needed to be around each other. He was back home with his parents for the summer and after he came back from seeing me his parents started putting negative thoughts about our relationship which led to to avoid me and act differently towards me ( how i came to know this is because he told me what was going on) he said he just needs to be back at school away from the negative talks around him
Today he showed me a couple of screen shots of a conversation with his mother asking her what real love feels like and how you know when someone is the one. Him and i used to talk about our future a lot before that the past few months we havent... at least he hasnt.
Being the other thinker that i am i skyped him a while after he showed me the conversation and he admitted that he doesnt love me as much anymore but doesnt want to lose me. He knows that if we break up i wont keep in touch with him... he started crying and at one point i asked him again if he thinks we should break up he said yes i dont want to be selfish and i want to do what it think is best for you.
He said he cant just erase me from his life because he wont have a second chance with me if we were to break up i said if you want to be with me a year from now why cant you be with me now?
I forgot to mention that the reason he started feeling like this is because he is afraid our relationship will go to waste especially with the fact that he wont be able to see me until two years from now which is when we plan to move in together after we are both done with school. My father not knowing about us makes it a bit hard for me to visit
He also said he is finding out things about me that he didnt know before
I feel very lost and i do not know what to do.... how can he not love me as much anymore but want to stay with me and cries about the fact that he doesn't want to lose me ?
i am a new poster here and i am seeking advice about my relationship.
Just a background about my relationship. I met my boyfriend on a facebook page ( he lives in Louisiana and i live in Toronto ) we have been together about a year and a half and have met twice already with him being the one that visited me. One thing to mention is that i come from a middle eastern background so dating for us ( well my father ) is a bit different which is why he does not know of my boyfriend yet. However , the second time he visited me my dad knew that a guy was coming to see me and i felt telling him about my significant other slowly is a better way to do it.
Another important factor to add is that he is younger than me by 4 years... im 25
The second time he came to see me was late July so not too long ago however a bit before that we started having a bit of issues one being he said he started thinking about his ex whom he was with for a long time before me but when we met everything became normal again between us we just needed to be around each other. He was back home with his parents for the summer and after he came back from seeing me his parents started putting negative thoughts about our relationship which led to to avoid me and act differently towards me ( how i came to know this is because he told me what was going on) he said he just needs to be back at school away from the negative talks around him
Today he showed me a couple of screen shots of a conversation with his mother asking her what real love feels like and how you know when someone is the one. Him and i used to talk about our future a lot before that the past few months we havent... at least he hasnt.
Being the other thinker that i am i skyped him a while after he showed me the conversation and he admitted that he doesnt love me as much anymore but doesnt want to lose me. He knows that if we break up i wont keep in touch with him... he started crying and at one point i asked him again if he thinks we should break up he said yes i dont want to be selfish and i want to do what it think is best for you.
He said he cant just erase me from his life because he wont have a second chance with me if we were to break up i said if you want to be with me a year from now why cant you be with me now?
I forgot to mention that the reason he started feeling like this is because he is afraid our relationship will go to waste especially with the fact that he wont be able to see me until two years from now which is when we plan to move in together after we are both done with school. My father not knowing about us makes it a bit hard for me to visit
He also said he is finding out things about me that he didnt know before
I feel very lost and i do not know what to do.... how can he not love me as much anymore but want to stay with me and cries about the fact that he doesn't want to lose me ?
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