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    How did you tell your family?

    My SO lives in Egypt and I live in California, I am a little worried to tell my family I am planning on visiting him next year. I don't know how they will react, I will only be going for 2 weeks, but I am worried they will try to forbid me from going. He is a great man but of course I want to get to know him more before I actually travel 7500 miles to see him.

    How did you break the news to your family members and how did you deal with negative people saying all your SO wants a visa.
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    I just came right out and told my family I was dating someone who lived further away. They took it well, I let them know all his details (which he agreed to) so my family knew where I was going to be and how to get in touch with me. I found being upfront worked well for me.

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      #3
      I agonized over it for months! But I eventually did because we were planning a roadtrip around Germany, Netherlands, Belgium etc and meeting eachother in person so I had to tell my mom. At first I just called him 'traveling companion' and I introduced him over Skype. But eventually I told her he's actually my boyfriend and it was a HUGE load off of my shoulders. Since I came home safe so far she likes him lol.

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        #4
        Originally posted by Adrie85 View Post
        My SO lives in Egypt and I live in California, I am a little worried to tell my family I am planning on visiting him next year. I don't know how they will react, I will only be going for 2 weeks, but I am worried they will try to forbid me from going. He is a great man but of course I want to get to know him more before I actually travel 7500 miles to see him.

        How did you break the news to your family members and how did you deal with negative people saying all your SO wants a visa.
        I can see where your relationship is pretty new, but how can your parents forbid you to go at age30? And wanting a visa can always be a possibility if you don't know them. Just take it slow and easy and make sure you do tell your parents. Let them meet up via Skype etc..

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          #5
          I'm really in a bad situation because of this. I'm 19 but I never introduced a boyfriend to my family and last night dad saw a post on my Facebook account and I had to tell mom and she got so upset that it escalated quickly to her saying that I have to choose between her and my SO.
          I know it sounds overdramatic but I swear it's not. I really need some help I don't know what to do and the plans we had on the long run just... Ugh!
          I'm sorry I posted this here but can anyone help?

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            #6
            Originally posted by Louna12 View Post
            I'm really in a bad situation because of this. I'm 19 but I never introduced a boyfriend to my family and last night dad saw a post on my Facebook account and I had to tell mom and she got so upset that it escalated quickly to her saying that I have to choose between her and my SO.
            I know it sounds overdramatic but I swear it's not. I really need some help I don't know what to do and the plans we had on the long run just... Ugh!
            I'm sorry I posted this here but can anyone help?
            You should really post your own thread, and not hijack the OP's. People will be happy to advise you then.
            Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein

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              #7
              I actually just told my mum that I'm going on a holiday to London and nothing else at the time. Then when we were about to meet face-to-face for the first time I just texted mum that I have a date with this dude I've been talking to for six months. She was a bit worried and all that, but gladly everything went really well and now my family and friends all adore him.

              You really need to make sure you stay safe when you're meeting. Definitely do it in a public place and let your family member or a friend know your date's full details, in case something happens. You can't know a person that well when you're only talking to them online since it's very easy to just fake everything. Just tell your family. You're an adult so they can't forbid you, but remember to stay safe and listen to your instincts.

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                #8
                I completely agree with Bee'sknees. My SO is from Egypt so I completely understand the situation. I must say the first time we met I wasn't going to tell my mum at all, and just go there with a friend (It's kinda close for me). But in the end I couldn't leave without telling... I think you need to keep yourself safe first, and let someone know you're there. Egypt is not an easy place and even though you will see him and be with him, I'm sad to say it's not safe.

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by Moon View Post
                  You should really post your own thread, and not hijack the OP's. People will be happy to advise you then.
                  Agreed sorry I wasn't thinking right. I'll take that down

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