My boyfriend and I have been doing the LDR for almost two years now. Im in Australia and he is Irish and just started his new job in Dubai 3 days ago.
We worked for two year in Saudi Arabia which has help his drinking problem since it is banned there and there is not many things to do there so he spent most time at home with his cat, playing game and talking to me.
He lost his job in May and got another one in Dubai. he visited me for a month in June and went travelling in Europe and spent time at home with his parents after that while waiting for his job to start. While on trips, he went out everyday and drank everyday till early morning. He would just talk with any one and drank with strangers till morning...and did not keep in touch with me very often. I saw my messages were read but no reply...his excuses were he is on trip, so either he got home drunk and had to rush out the morning after to meet his friend cos he was late. He told me it is ok if we dont talk all the time, I do agree with this but all i expect was a short message saying ' Im ok' and a short update.
After his trip in Spain and Italy, he stayed in ireland for 2 months and he wasnt doing much at all. I am the one who always get in touch first when all he did was playing game at home, or just killing time. Although, we still videochat everyday but there werent much of conversation, and at times few awkward pause and stares. He would drink most night by himself a bottle of wine, and sometimes he did go out with a only friend he has left in town and it could be till 5am in the morning. He would sleep in and hung over the next day feeling tired and again we talked but there were just stares and pauses
He used to take the initiatives to talk to me before and always make me feel important and that i matter to him. I talked to him about it, and he told me its ok and its normal cos he doesnt have much going on and we talk everyday.
He moved to Dubai 3 days ago. There have been only a very few messages and not many updates. First night we went out with new people drinking till 3 am, but when he got to the hotel room, he told me he needs to sleep as he needs to get up early tomorrow... I was thinking why he could go out till late with strangers till late but it was too late just to have quick chat and fill me in with what happened in his first day. The second night he went out a group of 6 young people in their early twenty's ( he is 37 and im 27) partying and doing shots till 5 am while he told me we might not able talk to me cos he would go to bed early cos he needs to get up early tomorrow for his orientation, yet he decided to go out till 5 am getting wasted and had zero sleep to go to his orientation at 7am. I messaged him around 10pm his time which is like 7 am my time expecting a quick chat before he sleeps but i saw my message wasnt delivered so i knew he went out drinking...And i checked again and it was 5am and my message still werrent delivered...knowing him, i could have guessed he were still out drinking yet he wouldnt text me...He only got back to me just before he had to leave to his orientation saying he was out all night and it was a good fun...I was not happy about it at all...not only because he knows i would be worried yet he did not text and it made me feel im unimportant, but also because of his drinking problems and that he was irresponsible about that as he would go out drinking with young people partying people till early in the morning while he has to be at work at 7 and it has only his second night in Dubai....
The third day which was yesterday, he was just dead tired because had zero sleep from his crazy night out. I decided not to nag him about it because i know we would have fight again if i do...I decided to wait until he settles down and found his apartment and adjust to his new life in Dubai and also for me to observe if that was just the once in a while things that he goes out and get wasted or its gonna be his ' routine'.again. He used to have heavy drinking problem before he met me, but as i said 2 years working in Saudi has helped with that...So i got some messages from him saying he had to move city and sorry he couldnt hear me... It turned out he got some random miss call and he thought it was me so he sent me a message saying that he had to move city...I asked him if he didnt get that miss call would he let me know? He got slightly annoyed when i said that...He said if only he has time, but I know the whole time he was just in the hotel hall chatting with all the new teachers and waiting for the bus....and he told me only he has time...He told me thing is very hectic there, and he is not happy about where he is allocated and there is a lot of moving...Im trying to be understanding but he has time to out till late with strangers till late but not a few seconds to send me a message...It was never like this before, he always let me know about things that going on in his life...and would text if he goes out or if he couldnt come to skype when we planned it because something comes up...Later when he arrived in the city he needs to be in, he got to talk about it...and he told me about his crazy night and there were young people guys and girls..he told me they took turn to buy shots and one of the girl was wasted and trying to jump off a moving car...and he told me its a good fun...
When he visited me in June...I got to meet his friend who he grew up with and his wife...They havent meet each other for years so we went out for a few dinner and drinks..His friend used to be a partying guy and just like him but he has settled because he got the love of his life and we are expecting...So after a few drinks he said he would leave from the this cos he feelings a bit drunk and he wants to go home and spend time with his wife,,,while my boyfriend just keep insist him to stay to have few more drinks even though he refused a few times.. I was just there with them...and it got me thinking ( i am not trying to compare) but i wished he could be a little like that...He is 37 and likes to go out often and he always the last to leave ...not until he got really wasted...
So he is about to start his new life in Dubai and to be honest , I became a little insecure about it...We have yet 2 years to go...I afraid that he is feeling less for me...Im afraid he would go back to drinking everyday...I am afraid of the new temptations...The good thing about Saudi was he could not drink nor talk to women...and Im having negative thoughts about our relationship, he is aware but he just told me things are fine...and he loves me etc etc..i dont want to lose me and he only wants to be with me...But his actions just made me feel different
We worked for two year in Saudi Arabia which has help his drinking problem since it is banned there and there is not many things to do there so he spent most time at home with his cat, playing game and talking to me.
He lost his job in May and got another one in Dubai. he visited me for a month in June and went travelling in Europe and spent time at home with his parents after that while waiting for his job to start. While on trips, he went out everyday and drank everyday till early morning. He would just talk with any one and drank with strangers till morning...and did not keep in touch with me very often. I saw my messages were read but no reply...his excuses were he is on trip, so either he got home drunk and had to rush out the morning after to meet his friend cos he was late. He told me it is ok if we dont talk all the time, I do agree with this but all i expect was a short message saying ' Im ok' and a short update.
After his trip in Spain and Italy, he stayed in ireland for 2 months and he wasnt doing much at all. I am the one who always get in touch first when all he did was playing game at home, or just killing time. Although, we still videochat everyday but there werent much of conversation, and at times few awkward pause and stares. He would drink most night by himself a bottle of wine, and sometimes he did go out with a only friend he has left in town and it could be till 5am in the morning. He would sleep in and hung over the next day feeling tired and again we talked but there were just stares and pauses
He used to take the initiatives to talk to me before and always make me feel important and that i matter to him. I talked to him about it, and he told me its ok and its normal cos he doesnt have much going on and we talk everyday.
He moved to Dubai 3 days ago. There have been only a very few messages and not many updates. First night we went out with new people drinking till 3 am, but when he got to the hotel room, he told me he needs to sleep as he needs to get up early tomorrow... I was thinking why he could go out till late with strangers till late but it was too late just to have quick chat and fill me in with what happened in his first day. The second night he went out a group of 6 young people in their early twenty's ( he is 37 and im 27) partying and doing shots till 5 am while he told me we might not able talk to me cos he would go to bed early cos he needs to get up early tomorrow for his orientation, yet he decided to go out till 5 am getting wasted and had zero sleep to go to his orientation at 7am. I messaged him around 10pm his time which is like 7 am my time expecting a quick chat before he sleeps but i saw my message wasnt delivered so i knew he went out drinking...And i checked again and it was 5am and my message still werrent delivered...knowing him, i could have guessed he were still out drinking yet he wouldnt text me...He only got back to me just before he had to leave to his orientation saying he was out all night and it was a good fun...I was not happy about it at all...not only because he knows i would be worried yet he did not text and it made me feel im unimportant, but also because of his drinking problems and that he was irresponsible about that as he would go out drinking with young people partying people till early in the morning while he has to be at work at 7 and it has only his second night in Dubai....
The third day which was yesterday, he was just dead tired because had zero sleep from his crazy night out. I decided not to nag him about it because i know we would have fight again if i do...I decided to wait until he settles down and found his apartment and adjust to his new life in Dubai and also for me to observe if that was just the once in a while things that he goes out and get wasted or its gonna be his ' routine'.again. He used to have heavy drinking problem before he met me, but as i said 2 years working in Saudi has helped with that...So i got some messages from him saying he had to move city and sorry he couldnt hear me... It turned out he got some random miss call and he thought it was me so he sent me a message saying that he had to move city...I asked him if he didnt get that miss call would he let me know? He got slightly annoyed when i said that...He said if only he has time, but I know the whole time he was just in the hotel hall chatting with all the new teachers and waiting for the bus....and he told me only he has time...He told me thing is very hectic there, and he is not happy about where he is allocated and there is a lot of moving...Im trying to be understanding but he has time to out till late with strangers till late but not a few seconds to send me a message...It was never like this before, he always let me know about things that going on in his life...and would text if he goes out or if he couldnt come to skype when we planned it because something comes up...Later when he arrived in the city he needs to be in, he got to talk about it...and he told me about his crazy night and there were young people guys and girls..he told me they took turn to buy shots and one of the girl was wasted and trying to jump off a moving car...and he told me its a good fun...
When he visited me in June...I got to meet his friend who he grew up with and his wife...They havent meet each other for years so we went out for a few dinner and drinks..His friend used to be a partying guy and just like him but he has settled because he got the love of his life and we are expecting...So after a few drinks he said he would leave from the this cos he feelings a bit drunk and he wants to go home and spend time with his wife,,,while my boyfriend just keep insist him to stay to have few more drinks even though he refused a few times.. I was just there with them...and it got me thinking ( i am not trying to compare) but i wished he could be a little like that...He is 37 and likes to go out often and he always the last to leave ...not until he got really wasted...
So he is about to start his new life in Dubai and to be honest , I became a little insecure about it...We have yet 2 years to go...I afraid that he is feeling less for me...Im afraid he would go back to drinking everyday...I am afraid of the new temptations...The good thing about Saudi was he could not drink nor talk to women...and Im having negative thoughts about our relationship, he is aware but he just told me things are fine...and he loves me etc etc..i dont want to lose me and he only wants to be with me...But his actions just made me feel different
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