Jealously always seems be ok and go both ways in the honeymoon phase, and then all of a sudden it becomes too much. Fully trusting each other in a ldr seems easier with communication... that's the answer, right?
In the beginning I was told about a girl my SO thought was beautiful, and he tried to date, she wouldn't go out with him. She seems to come up sometimes. He would see her and mention how he would freeze up. I wanted him to be able to talk to me so i would deal with it, but inside it beat me up. I would look at her photos and obcess about pretty she was and how I couldn't be her (younger, as pretty, etc). As time went on, he stopped talking about her and i would forget, but in the year or so of dating, every 3-4 mo that we get to meet up, i see in his phone that he has searched for her and screenshot pictures of her😔 He tells me he wants to be with me forever and that he loves me and I'm beautiful to him, but how can I actually accept that I'm not the first choice? will she eventually come around? Then what? His mom tells me that there is only one of me and no one could touch that. True, but what am I doing? Maybe most of us just don't know if there is another person that our SO thinks is perfect? It's hard enough that there are so many girls around all the time when I am not. I feel like I'm what he can get, not what he really wants. Doesn't matter what he says, it's the fact that she always seems to appear in the times that I am around and I hardly see him (I've never seen her in person). Help
In the beginning I was told about a girl my SO thought was beautiful, and he tried to date, she wouldn't go out with him. She seems to come up sometimes. He would see her and mention how he would freeze up. I wanted him to be able to talk to me so i would deal with it, but inside it beat me up. I would look at her photos and obcess about pretty she was and how I couldn't be her (younger, as pretty, etc). As time went on, he stopped talking about her and i would forget, but in the year or so of dating, every 3-4 mo that we get to meet up, i see in his phone that he has searched for her and screenshot pictures of her😔 He tells me he wants to be with me forever and that he loves me and I'm beautiful to him, but how can I actually accept that I'm not the first choice? will she eventually come around? Then what? His mom tells me that there is only one of me and no one could touch that. True, but what am I doing? Maybe most of us just don't know if there is another person that our SO thinks is perfect? It's hard enough that there are so many girls around all the time when I am not. I feel like I'm what he can get, not what he really wants. Doesn't matter what he says, it's the fact that she always seems to appear in the times that I am around and I hardly see him (I've never seen her in person). Help
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