Constant waiting :(

[talierose]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year now. We met online, and so far we have met 3 times. The first two times were only for a week, however we spent 5 weeks together in the summer and it was the best experience ever. We had a little flat to ourselves which my gran's friend kindly let us stay in, and it was just an amazing summer. However, after being together day and night, 24/7, being alone again has been a bit of a shock to the system. I think emotionally I'm doing the best I could be in this situation, but the constant waiting gets lonely and very sad.
I was wondering what tips you guys have to make the time a little more bearable? We are meeting again in October, and then again in Christmas. We are very lucky to be able to meet this often but nonetheless the few months apart are very hard. We text everyday, quite a lot and we call almost every night. That helps a lot, however I still have moments when I feel a bit down so I would love to hear what you have done to be happy and stay positive in a long distance relationship cause it would really help me out

Thank you in advance!

[erwin1973]

The best thing is go on with your life as you had before you met - even before you met online. Just fit him in.
May be it helps to read other threads too, this item is asked a lot about and sure you'll find some handy advices that will help you a lot.
Welcome, btw.
Oh, and meeting 4 times a year? You're lucky! My lady and I will be together for over 2 years before we will meet first.

[talierose]

The best thing is go on with your life as you had before you met - even before you met online. Just fit him in.
May be it helps to read other threads too, this item is asked a lot about and sure you'll find some handy advices that will help you a lot.
Welcome, btw.
Oh, and meeting 4 times a year? You're lucky! My lady and I will be together for over 2 years before we will meet first.

I'll definitely check out the other threads, thank you! I was unsure since I'm new so I just decided to post one myself
And wow, I admire you for being so patient. I bet that must be very difficult sometimes.

[erwin1973]

It's difficult sometimes, but it is what it is...
NP, you can always ask anything, it was not meant to say you couldn't ask. It's just that the question is asked so often that there's a lot of people giving their answers, resulting in a lot of info, that can help you.

[hmrambling]

Here is advice from my own experience that I offer to folks who get caught up in waiting for the next text from their partner:

Are you a student? If yes, go to school. Focus on school.
Are you gainfully employed? If yes, go to work and be present at work.
Have friends? If yes, spend time with them. Enjoy yourself.
Have hobbies? If yes, spend time on your hobbies.
Have family? If yes, spend time with them.
Have interests? If yes, spend time on those things you are interested in.
Have internet? Read about the stages of relationships so that you will be knowledgeable about how relationships grow.
Exercised today? If not, go for a walk or jog or bike ride. Get active.
If you answered no to all of the above, change your life so that you can answer yes to some of these things.

Be a whole person so that you can be a whole person in a relationship. Become a priority and have a great relationship with yourself. Do not rely on your partner to complete you. Be a complete person whose partner is a positive addition to your life.

[talierose]

Thank you! I'm very lucky to be quite busy with school and work, but when I get home from those places then that's when reality starts to kick in a bit. I've been trying my best to find something that interests me that I could fill up my time with.
Thanks for the reply and advice

[differentcountries]

Being apart after having spent a month or more together is def hard! ♥

Apart from planning new visits, you may consider DIY-stuff (letters, books etc), working out, music, movies etc etc