Hello everybody.
I live in brazil and my S.O lives in Ireland. We met playing videogames and we've been together for 2 years already. He has several issues in his home that prevent him to come and see me so I traveled last year to visit him and stayed for a month in his family's house. At the beginning, we talked a lot on the phone and on Skype but it's been at least 6 months that he's distancing himself from communicating properly with me. He tells me that "it hurts too much to talk to me" and that he won't get back to the way things were because that's who he is, he will only compromise if I'm there living with him.
I would love to live in Ireland, although I think Brazil would be the best place for us, I feel like I'm willing to make that sacrifice, but when he dismissed some of my messages it hurted me and now, I feel like not having the strength to fight to be together. I know he is a good man and he would do a lot for me and for us, but at this point what keeps me going, which is talking, is exactly what hurts him the most. I don't know what to do!
I tried to cave to the things he asks for. Pictures, videos, audios, as soon as I sent those to him he gets silent and when I try to do the same he either does it with little to no effort or doesn't do it at all. He is not interested in stablishing a routine for Skyping anymore. He only calls when is an urgent matter and in the past he kissed someone else and said he had feelings for someone else also. I tried to break up at the time but he didn't want to cause according to him he knew I was serious about us. I forgave him for that but I've never forgotten about it.
He has no plans on visiting me anytime soon due to his issues back home. I don't own a lot of money so I can really only see him once a year until we decide if we can take the next step or not.
Endless nights of me crying to sleep because all I wanted was a good morning or good night text. I talked to him about all of these things and he justify his actions by saying that whatever action he takes in the relationship has to be genuine and true, so if he doesn't feel like texting he won't.
My insecurities and my mind are going insane, I don't feel like I want anybody other then him, I truly love him, I feel like we could work things out because when I was at his house we were better than ever, I met his family and friends. Now, I don't feel like I trust him enough to take care of my feelings. I feel that he is so scared about getting hurt by me that he's kind of hurting me in the process.
I'm sorry for writing so much, I just don't know where else to go, what to do. Could someone please give me the absolute truth in here? Thank you everyone.
I live in brazil and my S.O lives in Ireland. We met playing videogames and we've been together for 2 years already. He has several issues in his home that prevent him to come and see me so I traveled last year to visit him and stayed for a month in his family's house. At the beginning, we talked a lot on the phone and on Skype but it's been at least 6 months that he's distancing himself from communicating properly with me. He tells me that "it hurts too much to talk to me" and that he won't get back to the way things were because that's who he is, he will only compromise if I'm there living with him.
I would love to live in Ireland, although I think Brazil would be the best place for us, I feel like I'm willing to make that sacrifice, but when he dismissed some of my messages it hurted me and now, I feel like not having the strength to fight to be together. I know he is a good man and he would do a lot for me and for us, but at this point what keeps me going, which is talking, is exactly what hurts him the most. I don't know what to do!
I tried to cave to the things he asks for. Pictures, videos, audios, as soon as I sent those to him he gets silent and when I try to do the same he either does it with little to no effort or doesn't do it at all. He is not interested in stablishing a routine for Skyping anymore. He only calls when is an urgent matter and in the past he kissed someone else and said he had feelings for someone else also. I tried to break up at the time but he didn't want to cause according to him he knew I was serious about us. I forgave him for that but I've never forgotten about it.
He has no plans on visiting me anytime soon due to his issues back home. I don't own a lot of money so I can really only see him once a year until we decide if we can take the next step or not.
Endless nights of me crying to sleep because all I wanted was a good morning or good night text. I talked to him about all of these things and he justify his actions by saying that whatever action he takes in the relationship has to be genuine and true, so if he doesn't feel like texting he won't.
My insecurities and my mind are going insane, I don't feel like I want anybody other then him, I truly love him, I feel like we could work things out because when I was at his house we were better than ever, I met his family and friends. Now, I don't feel like I trust him enough to take care of my feelings. I feel that he is so scared about getting hurt by me that he's kind of hurting me in the process.
I'm sorry for writing so much, I just don't know where else to go, what to do. Could someone please give me the absolute truth in here? Thank you everyone.
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