Hello. I am from the US and my SO is from Thailand. I'm sorry, but you will have to know the whole story for this. I met him when I was 20 and he was 28. We met on April 13, 2016, at my university and he came there for a 3 week program to learn English. He fell in love with me at first sight and later, I fell in love too. He said he can wait for me until I graduate from my undergrad until then, we will text and call every day. So we started dating on May 6, the same year. We were doing great, talking everyday and getting having video dates. But my sister soon found out, and she told my parents. Long story short: most of my family gave me grief and strongly disapproves of him because he's much older and Thai. My SO soon found out and started to reconsider our relationship because he didn't want to destroy my family relationships. I reassured him that I will be okay and that if we still love each other, then it will be fine. After that we were okay. Then, in August I went to Japan for a year to study abroad. Japan was amazing, and I got to see him 6 times during the time I was there. However, soon after I came back to the US on August 2017. Last time I saw him was in July in Thailand.
We were doing okay, going strong I guess. Texting everyday when we could and video chatting too. But on Oct 22, he suddenly asked if we can just be friends. He told me he has been thinking about it for 2-3 months. I asked him why and what his reason was. He told me that it hurts too much. Being away from me, he can't do the things he wants to do with me, go shopping, hang out, hold hands, or eat together. The pain was unbearable and he cried every night.
I asked him if he stopped loving me. He said he couldn't do that. Talking with him, I found out that we still love each other, he still wants to be with me so much that it hurts. But why did he want to end things? His grandmother is on death bed and his mother is counting on him for medical bills and emotional support while his dad is not doing much. At work (he owns his own start up) he laid off 5 people recently because his company is not getting a lot of work. So he is stressed. I get it.
But I don't want to loose him. I love him so much. My heart has been breaking ever since he asked me to be friends. We are both still in love, why does it have to change? I suggested that maybe we should take a break instead. But he has decided and wants to go ahead with his decision. But I can't accept it. I know love is not always happy. There will be many painful moments. I know he is stressed right now but that does not mean we should just give up. I don't want to give up. We have not decided on anything, at least, I have not. I want to try and save this relationship. I feel like I can still do it. I know love is not the only thing in a relationship, but we shouldn't just give up without tying to save it together... right?
Please, any thoughts or suggestions on how I can save my relationship with him. Or anything from other point's of views. I would really like it to get a third party inside look on this. Thank you so much.
We were doing okay, going strong I guess. Texting everyday when we could and video chatting too. But on Oct 22, he suddenly asked if we can just be friends. He told me he has been thinking about it for 2-3 months. I asked him why and what his reason was. He told me that it hurts too much. Being away from me, he can't do the things he wants to do with me, go shopping, hang out, hold hands, or eat together. The pain was unbearable and he cried every night.
I asked him if he stopped loving me. He said he couldn't do that. Talking with him, I found out that we still love each other, he still wants to be with me so much that it hurts. But why did he want to end things? His grandmother is on death bed and his mother is counting on him for medical bills and emotional support while his dad is not doing much. At work (he owns his own start up) he laid off 5 people recently because his company is not getting a lot of work. So he is stressed. I get it.
But I don't want to loose him. I love him so much. My heart has been breaking ever since he asked me to be friends. We are both still in love, why does it have to change? I suggested that maybe we should take a break instead. But he has decided and wants to go ahead with his decision. But I can't accept it. I know love is not always happy. There will be many painful moments. I know he is stressed right now but that does not mean we should just give up. I don't want to give up. We have not decided on anything, at least, I have not. I want to try and save this relationship. I feel like I can still do it. I know love is not the only thing in a relationship, but we shouldn't just give up without tying to save it together... right?
Please, any thoughts or suggestions on how I can save my relationship with him. Or anything from other point's of views. I would really like it to get a third party inside look on this. Thank you so much.
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