so I've been dating my current partner from Norway hes very far away and I really love him. there'a a problem i'm insecure about myself i'm not very pretty and i'm shy. him I feel very comfortable I wish this was less of a problem so that we can both be happy my body is something i'm not happy with neither is my face but I try and be myself as much as possible I don't know what to do. he says it doesn't matter but to me it does what if i'm not attractive enough? I mean hes one of the most breath taking guys I've met! I mean its better if i didn't look so bad. I can't exactly change my looks unless I get some sort of plastic surgery which I don't want to happen because I believe that I should never change who I am for someone else. Is there anyway i could get a confidence boost? or at least feel better about myself? any advice would be appreciated Love, Micky.
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You need to work on your selfesteem. you will push him away if you keep bringing yourself down. You need to learn to like yourself. I'm sure e You are great, cute and nice. You need to realize it yourself. I would suggest maybe talking to a professional. these feeligs will bring you down in life
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Everyone is unique in their own way. It sounds like a cliché and may be it is, but real beauty is on the inside. Looks change. A beautiful man or woman will grow old, a beautiful mind will always be a beautiful mind. It's not the outside that counts, it is the inside. I am sure your boyfriend love you for who you are, not for how you look. I myself am about 20 kilo's overweight and I hate my big stomach. My girl thinks it's lovely. When a man loves a woman, she automatically becomes the prettiest girl on the planet. I mean, really loves. I guess he is telling you you are beautiful. Believe him, in his eyes you are.
Still feeling insecure? Rezie has a good suggestion.
Thank you for adding some interpunction.Distance means nothing when someone means everything.
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Originally posted by Micky View PostIs there anyway i could get a confidence boost? or at least feel better about myself?
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Originally posted by erwin1973 View PostEveryone is unique in their own way. It sounds like a cliché and may be it is, but real beauty is on the inside. Looks change. A beautiful man or woman will grow old, a beautiful mind will always be a beautiful mind. It's not the outside that counts, it is the inside. I am sure your boyfriend love you for who you are, not for how you look. I myself am about 20 kilo's overweight and I hate my big stomach. My girl thinks it's lovely. When a man loves a woman, she automatically becomes the prettiest girl on the planet. I mean, really loves. I guess he is telling you you are beautiful. Believe him, in his eyes you are.
Still feeling insecure? Rezie has a good suggestion.
Thank you for adding some interpunction.Originally posted by hmrambling View PostYour entire post is about physical attractiveness. Physical attractiveness does not make or break relationships. However, insecurity can. When I'm down on myself about anything, I try to affirm myself in a positive manner. Have you ever tried affirmations? If not, check out Louise Haye 101 Affirmations for Life. You can find them on Youtube. Try listening to those affirmations and allow them to marinate.
OP, I assume your guy has at least seen a non-filtered picture of you, right? He's still in contact, isn't he? If that's the case, you're attractive enough for him, don't let insecurities ruin things. It's OK to be shy, just don't be ridiculous about it. If he wasn't attracted to you, physically or otherwise, he wouldn't be with you. Just relax and enjoy your relationship.Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein
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Originally posted by Moon View Postto tell her it doesn't matter is a falsehood
Perhaps I misunderstood the question. Perhaps OP can indicate whether I misunderstood the question or not. However I read the question that she asked if others knew anything she could do to boost her confidence.
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Originally posted by hmrambling View PostYou'll find that I didn't say that attractiveness doesn't matter if you re-read my post. I do, however, say that physical attractiveness doesn't make or break relationships... and I did address OP's question when I suggested affirmations because her question was about how she can boost confidence and feel better about herself.
Perhaps I misunderstood the question. Perhaps OP can indicate whether I misunderstood the question or not. However I read the question that she asked if others knew anything she could do to boost her confidence.Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein
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Well, then I guess I have to respond, too... I didn't say, as far as I am aware, that it isn't important to her. I only tried to give some of my view to her. If I offended OP, I am terribly sorry, but I don't see what I did wrong here, sorry for that. May be you want to explain to the letter what you think I did wrong... I don't see any offence in my post.Distance means nothing when someone means everything.
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I assume that he thinks you are very beautiful
Also, if your boyfriend is from Norway, he is used to shy and introvert people.I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
- Paulo Coelho, "Eleven minutes"
"Bız yüzyılın aşkı vardır" - We have dated since Sept. 2013. To see our full story, click here https://members.lovingfromadistance....and-our-visits
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Originally posted by erwin1973 View PostWell, then I guess I have to respond, too... I didn't say, as far as I am aware, that it isn't important to her. I only tried to give some of my view to her. If I offended OP, I am terribly sorry, but I don't see what I did wrong here, sorry for that. May be you want to explain to the letter what you think I did wrong... I don't see any offence in my post.Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein
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Look, I am 40+, and if my daughter would have said to me what OP posts, I would have responded the same. I for one don't give a thing about what others think about me. May be I am different, because I never did. Never wanted to fit in any group. I am me. More people should be like that.Last edited by erwin1973; October 27, 2017, 07:03 PM.Distance means nothing when someone means everything.
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Originally posted by erwin1973 View PostLook, I am 40+, and if my daughter would have said to me what OP posts, I would have responded the same. I for one don't give a thing about what others think about me. May be I am different, because I never did. Never wanted to fit in any group. I am me. More people should be like that.Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein
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When I met my husband I was 22 years old and convinced I was ugly. It wasn't so much my weight, even though I had struggled with it for years, but I knew I was ugly and could not understand what he could possibly find pretty.
He wanted to take a picture of me with my camera and I wouldn't let him so he finally looked at me and said "you're not ugly" and until then I had never said it or faced it and we had a long long talk.
I am 28 now and I find myself pretty. I can look in the mirror and see things that I really like about my face.
So I think all you need is a little time to see what others see in you.
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