Feeling anxious and worried first time meeting

[Claire999]

I’m 37 and met this wonderful man online, we met in an online video game. We started to skype and talk nearly every day..now it’s been nearly 4 yrs and we have decided to meet. We both have professed our life to each other and I feel like I’ve really connected to him in ways I’ve never felt possible. Especially not just through voice and video chat. He’s told me that he want s me to come stay with him and live there, he’s in Europe I’m in the USA. This is what we’ve been talking about for the last two years ..now we are less than a week away and he’s telling me that he’s worried..that he doesn’t want to mess up what we have, that he really cares for me and tells me he loves me..but he’s nervous because he’s never had a live in gf. I’m confused, one minute he’s talking about the different things he wants to do when I’m there..then the next he’s worried about “everything” he says. Is this just natural “first time”!jitters ..thank you for any advice

Feeling anxious

[Littlewhiteflower]

Yes it is normal. The first meeting is the one where you realise whether or not this special thing you think you had online is also real. You can be attracted to someone online and realise in real that you are not. Of course attraction isnt everything but it is still important.
I would never have moved to live with my SO after not having met him.

So yes it is normal to be nervous and worried. When i moved to my partner's apartment for 3 months, after having met him previously, he was still worried too. I was nervous too.

Every individuals react to those things differently. If your partner is stressed, just try to reassure him.

Best of luck for your first meeting !

[Claire999]

Thank you so much, I’m feeling anxious, nervous and worried as well. However I feel like he is more worried than me. Neither one of us has had a serious relationship and it makes me feel a lil better that these are natural feelings

[erwin1973]

I agree with Littlewhiteflower it's normal. I had that too, when in 2002 I went to see my first pengirlfriend. I was very nervous, and so was she.

Well, how nervous you are is of course dependant on your character. Some tend to stress more. It is, as said, absolutely normal. Just be yourself (both of you) and make the best out of it.

[Heynow2714]

Totally normal. Even years down the road and many visits under your belt, you will still get excited /anxious with that butterfly feeling. 🙂 hope it goes well!