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    Feeling abandoned..

    It is not a month yet, and he already fails on calling me, or even sending me messages. He is not even busy.
    I started to feel like what my mother said is true, he will forget me when he has returned to Korea.
    He keeps on being Away on Skype. Maybe girls from his country is better for him.
    The last time we contacted each other was like two days ago, and he said sorry because he slept too much, he got too comfortable because he's at home.
    But then when I am sleepy, he asked me to stay awake to keep him company, I thought.

    I feel like he feels that contacting me is an annoying thing to do and I'm not important enough to him.

    #2
    I'm sorry to hear this. Did you share your feelings with him about this?
    Distance means nothing when someone means everything.

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      #3
      Talk to him, either he doesnt know or dosent see a issue with his actions, you will know what to do next after you express your feelings
      good luck!

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        #4
        I agree with Erwin, you need to talk to him about how you're feeling.

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          #5
          Originally posted by Wambby View Post
          Talk to him, either he doesnt know or dosent see a issue with his actions, you will know what to do next after you express your feelings
          good luck!
          Thing is, he has not read my messages (which mainly consists of me telling stuff about my day, how I miss him, how I feel like he is ignoring me, etc)..
          And sometimes he is not online maybe because he is facing stressful situation or sth so I am afraid that I am being insensitive..
          I guess I can't do anything but wait.

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            #6
            Are you two exclusive? In my opinion, when you are, both should make time for each other. Actions say more than words. I don't know what is going on, may be you could call him (Skype, Viber, FaceTime, whatever) when you see he is online and should be home...
            Actions say more than words, you know...
            Distance means nothing when someone means everything.

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              #7
              Originally posted by erwin1973 View Post
              Are you two exclusive? In my opinion, when you are, both should make time for each other. Actions say more than words. I don't know what is going on, may be you could call him (Skype, Viber, FaceTime, whatever) when you see he is online and should be home...
              Actions say more than words, you know...
              Yup, we are! We have exchanged couple ring pendants and stuff.. And actually we have been calling each other everyday (and yeah, message each other on Skype).
              He just told me that he needed to go for a funeral service for ancestors with his parents yesterday at 3 AM, and then he just disappeared.
              But actually he hasn't called me for just 2 days, the day before the funeral service he slept early after meeting his friends without telling me.
              Well I am glad he can rest well though, cuz before he had insomnia caused by stress..

              I don't know... I feel like I am too clingy and freak out a lot.
              I mean maybe he has stuff to do with his family etc, or facing something stressful he could use a few days of space, but like...
              I feel like he doesn't want me around him anymore or sth.. I don't want to be petty but I usually try to update him about my day no matter how tired I am, but he just doesn't try..

              Well when he is online he tells me a bit about his day and if he's stressed about sth he will tell me tho..
              Before he will ignore my calls when he is mad at me, but then we have talked about it so he calls me even when he is angry so I am assuming that the situation he is facing right now doesn't give him time to contact me..

              But new girls are a 'situation' too, yes?

              Please note that I have anxiety and mild depression, I overthink.

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                #8
                First of all... what does 'sth' mean?
                Did you have communication about the communication? I mean... did you agree about how often and when to chat? Or is it just random? I can understand that he needs some space, but it would be nice if he let you know that.
                I'm not sure if you're clingy or not, I must say that - dispite my age - I freak out when my lady isn't online at the bespoken time. Not immediately, but when she's late for 30 minutes, yes... Because she's very prompt. But that aside, don't let your anxiety get in the way of your relationship. On the other hand, actions say more than words... If he can't keep his promises and disappears for a few days, knowing you get upset about that, and then finds a silly excuse... you should have a talk with him about that. On the other hand: don't overthink. You should trust him until he has proven he can't be trusted. Not the other way around.
                Be strong, and may be set an appointment to talk about this with him.
                Distance means nothing when someone means everything.

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                  #9
                  I'm gonna sound like a grandma here, but I had a LDR relationship when i was 20 and it was very similar... however, now I understand why things went down. Maybe he is at home "doing nothing" and that's okay. He probably feels like he needs a break from being online 24-7, maybe he has other hobbies... don't let your anxiety get the best of you. Being in a LDR doesn't mean being 24-7 attached to your phone texting about nothing in particular, maybe he doesn't feel like he has anything relevant to say. It doesn't mean anything but him taking time to himself.

                  Life isn't just about being romantically involved with someone, near or far. If you have reasons to have trust issues, that's another thing. No need to think he is talking to other girls just because he isnt talking to you.

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