new ldr and hurting

[forever.his]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years now and he has decided that he would like to go spend time back packing around and using that time to build his character. We had decided to go together and made plans to do so but I backed out last minute out of fear. He understood and was partly happy I stayed behind so that I didn't resent him for it later and because he would have felt the need to protect me all the time which I can understand. He left just two days ago and my heart has been aching ever since. It would have been OK if I knew when he was coming home or even when I knew I was going to hear from him next, but I don't know either of those things and I'm so upset that I can't function. I regret my decision to stay behind more than anything else and I don't know what I can do to make this right in my head. I need support more than ever and some advice if you got it. Thanks

[kittyxuchiha11]

Do you not know a basic timeline of where he's going and what he's doing? like for example he'll be in such a place at this time and might contact you? if not yeah that's really really rough, but if you know a basic timeline then you can look forward to those days. in a LDR you need to have little things to look forward to, even if that's just the chance of getting a text. Only advice I can give is to continue with your life, i know that's hard when you're missing someone, but try get on with things that need doing and keep your mind busy.

[forever.his]

No time line at all which makes me worry so much on top of my grief. I'd like to join him more than anything but without knowing where he is I can't see myself just flying around looking for him.

[Ali Schnee]

Wait, so you say that the guy just decided to "backpack around" without telling you where he is going and without telling you when he will be online again? Sorry, but that sounds quiet strange. We live in a connected world and the only chance not being able to answer a message is being in the amazonian jungle without electricity. Apart my dislike for people pretending to "build character backpacking" (unpopular opinion but I think it is basically loosing time), I understand your despair... hm. The only advice i can give you: If you love him, wait till his adventurous spirit is satisfied and he will come back to you with a sorry. If you would be still ok to accept it, you can still reunite in any dirty unhygienic place in the world that are famous for building "characters" (i guess its because of diarrhea XD). Sending you a hug!