Met in NYC, were together for 7 amazing weeks before I left for Ireland to finish my final year of my degree. He visited once in October, then he called a break at christmas for three weeks because i was doing exams and he was stressed at work, 5 hours difference also puts a HUGE strain on the relationship and when we can talk. Then things went back to normal, then had a fight end of February and he broke up with me over text thinking I was cheating on him (I wasn't). We had already organised for me to visit him and bought expensive plane tickets for Easter. After begging with him that he was wrong(hard to prove a negative when trust is disrupted by a 3000 mile distance), he still didnt want to be with me I texted him saying i was still coming over but wouldnt bother him - instead visit my cousin. he texted back saying that was a good idea.
There was no contact from both parties for 4 weeks. As i landed he calls and texts me to see him for dinner, which ended us getting back together and him asking to move in with him in july when i get my visa. Then my finals came up and I got really sick and he didnt show any sympathy and didnt care how stressed i was with my finals. I called the break this time for 3 weeks until after my exams were done because i was getting stressed out and he wasn't helping me and i needed to focus on my exams.
three weeks pass and he doesnt return my texts or calls, then texts me back on two occasions saying hes unavailable, then hes out (on a Monday night till 2:30am) and will catch up in the week. I texted him at the weekend asking when is our catchup, he said he was busy and to aim for week after. I texted back saying do you still want me moving in because by his behaviour avoiding me, he didn't seem like he wanted to deal with me. no response to that message. A couple of days later i texted again saying im still coming over and moving in, and i dont care if hes ignoring me because that was our promise and plan that we made to each other after being 10 months apart.
So its been 5 weeks now of silence, two of those weeks me actually trying to call him. Is he just on a power trip? I called the break now he wants to say when its over? Is he ghosting me and just waiting for me to pull the plug? Is he cheating on me? I know hes avoiding me texts because they deliver and i can see on Instagram that hes active. I dont want to end it because i am still in love with him but i feel he doesnt prioritise me because im not physically there and interacting with him. help please, how do i save this, or at least make him pick up the phone and say its over? ghosting is just so cowardly and immature.
There was no contact from both parties for 4 weeks. As i landed he calls and texts me to see him for dinner, which ended us getting back together and him asking to move in with him in july when i get my visa. Then my finals came up and I got really sick and he didnt show any sympathy and didnt care how stressed i was with my finals. I called the break this time for 3 weeks until after my exams were done because i was getting stressed out and he wasn't helping me and i needed to focus on my exams.
three weeks pass and he doesnt return my texts or calls, then texts me back on two occasions saying hes unavailable, then hes out (on a Monday night till 2:30am) and will catch up in the week. I texted him at the weekend asking when is our catchup, he said he was busy and to aim for week after. I texted back saying do you still want me moving in because by his behaviour avoiding me, he didn't seem like he wanted to deal with me. no response to that message. A couple of days later i texted again saying im still coming over and moving in, and i dont care if hes ignoring me because that was our promise and plan that we made to each other after being 10 months apart.
So its been 5 weeks now of silence, two of those weeks me actually trying to call him. Is he just on a power trip? I called the break now he wants to say when its over? Is he ghosting me and just waiting for me to pull the plug? Is he cheating on me? I know hes avoiding me texts because they deliver and i can see on Instagram that hes active. I dont want to end it because i am still in love with him but i feel he doesnt prioritise me because im not physically there and interacting with him. help please, how do i save this, or at least make him pick up the phone and say its over? ghosting is just so cowardly and immature.
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