Hello! I have come seeking advice.
Some history on my relationship: My partner is a 24 y/o Canadian man and I am a 21 y/o American woman. We met in April of 2016 and easily fell into a dating situation. At the time I was 19 and wasn't in the position to really tell my parents I was seeing someone I met online. I got anxious and we separated for a little while. After getting back together I introduced him to my mom and younger brother over the phone and slowly introduced him to the rest of my family. We started making plans after I talked to some of his family to finally meet each other. At first, it was My 20th birthday, then the following summer and it continued to be pushed back because he hadn't gotten his passport yet, he doesn't have enough money, etc. He also uses his parents as a reason he cants come see me yet saying they won't let him because he doesn't have a real job yet, however, he is a 24-year-old man and should, IMHO, just do as he pleases rather than worry about them. At the time I understood but now it has been 2 years and we still have yet to meet. every time I bring it up he gets defensive and I drop it or we argue. This argument has led to us splitting and getting back together enough times that no one in my family will give me honest advice with a 10-foot pole. I would go see him in a heartbeat if i had a job that would allow that and didnt have 6 exotic animals that need 24 hour care. He has neither so it was more feasable for him to come here.
So my question is: what would you do if you and your partner had met after 2 years and he was resistant to doing what needs to be done to make that happen?
Some history on my relationship: My partner is a 24 y/o Canadian man and I am a 21 y/o American woman. We met in April of 2016 and easily fell into a dating situation. At the time I was 19 and wasn't in the position to really tell my parents I was seeing someone I met online. I got anxious and we separated for a little while. After getting back together I introduced him to my mom and younger brother over the phone and slowly introduced him to the rest of my family. We started making plans after I talked to some of his family to finally meet each other. At first, it was My 20th birthday, then the following summer and it continued to be pushed back because he hadn't gotten his passport yet, he doesn't have enough money, etc. He also uses his parents as a reason he cants come see me yet saying they won't let him because he doesn't have a real job yet, however, he is a 24-year-old man and should, IMHO, just do as he pleases rather than worry about them. At the time I understood but now it has been 2 years and we still have yet to meet. every time I bring it up he gets defensive and I drop it or we argue. This argument has led to us splitting and getting back together enough times that no one in my family will give me honest advice with a 10-foot pole. I would go see him in a heartbeat if i had a job that would allow that and didnt have 6 exotic animals that need 24 hour care. He has neither so it was more feasable for him to come here.
So my question is: what would you do if you and your partner had met after 2 years and he was resistant to doing what needs to be done to make that happen?
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