So, international folks...how long were you and your SO long distance? Or, if you haven't closed the distance, how long have you been apart, and do you have plans to move closer?
Basically, my partner (of 14 months, known each other 2yrs) is in the UK, in a huge liberal city with A LOT of cultural history and opportunities, with a company she's built from scratch, an amazing network of friends and professional connections, hobbies which are really important to her, etc. She'd be miserable anywhere else.
I'm in the northeastern US, in a much smaller and more conservative city which has much less in the way of cultural stuff, and I have a good, but replaceable, job, a house I want to sell anyway, and I'm pretty introverted, so most of my friends are from college and scattered geographically anyway. Ideally, I'd move to her city. I love it there, and I could find good work, and together we'd make enough for me to fly back to the US to visit family (or fly family to us).
However, I also have a 7 year old, and my state will not let me move out of driving distance of her father. Unless he dies, pretty much, I'm stuck here. Which, even though he's generally useless as far as being a responsible parent, as long as he's even superficially involved in her life, that's in DD's best interest. The earliest I could move is in 2029 when she graduates high school. We'll have been together TWELVE years at that point.
I'm just looking for a bit of support from folks who've gone through the LONG process...I know it's going to be hard sometimes, and right now is one of those times. Emotionally, I'm feeling like I really want some sort of "next step," or something, but we can't have it, and I'm struggling with the feelings about moving on from that and having to put it off for a DECADE.
Thanks
Basically, my partner (of 14 months, known each other 2yrs) is in the UK, in a huge liberal city with A LOT of cultural history and opportunities, with a company she's built from scratch, an amazing network of friends and professional connections, hobbies which are really important to her, etc. She'd be miserable anywhere else.
I'm in the northeastern US, in a much smaller and more conservative city which has much less in the way of cultural stuff, and I have a good, but replaceable, job, a house I want to sell anyway, and I'm pretty introverted, so most of my friends are from college and scattered geographically anyway. Ideally, I'd move to her city. I love it there, and I could find good work, and together we'd make enough for me to fly back to the US to visit family (or fly family to us).
However, I also have a 7 year old, and my state will not let me move out of driving distance of her father. Unless he dies, pretty much, I'm stuck here. Which, even though he's generally useless as far as being a responsible parent, as long as he's even superficially involved in her life, that's in DD's best interest. The earliest I could move is in 2029 when she graduates high school. We'll have been together TWELVE years at that point.
I'm just looking for a bit of support from folks who've gone through the LONG process...I know it's going to be hard sometimes, and right now is one of those times. Emotionally, I'm feeling like I really want some sort of "next step," or something, but we can't have it, and I'm struggling with the feelings about moving on from that and having to put it off for a DECADE.
Thanks
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