Hey, new here and just kinda wanted to tell my story and maybe get some advice.
We met online a while ago, and we really clicked together. We talked a bunch almost everyday and to me it was like I finally found someone that was like me, a nerd but one that also works out and has a life outside of videogames. I instantly loved that, and I noticed I started falling for her before I even saw her face.
When I finally got to see pictures of her, she was, in my eyes, the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. She looked so natural, and she really didn’t bother applying the pounds of make up most girls these days wear (Which is fine, just not really my thing.) Anywho, after about a month off teasing and flirting, well we got really intimate. After that night, I asked her what are we, and well at first she said she really liked me, but that she didn’t know if she could really be with a guy that’s not there.
Long story short, I convinced her to give it a shot, that maybe it’ll be nice for us. And for 2 months, it was, she constantly reminded me that she loved me, that she was really happy I convinced her and that she wanted no one else. I couldn’t have been happier during these days... But well, one day she didn’t talk to me all day, which was strange, after talking and asking what was wrong(we promised we would always be communicative with each other) she tood me that she felt off, that not having me there really hurt her because she really loved me and wanted nothing else for me to be there. But that since I wasn’t, she didnt know if she could still keep trying, that she spent too much time crying and felt so lonely when she wasn’t talking to me. This broke my heart, not just because she was essentially breaking up with me, but because this relationship at times hurt her more than it did her good.
Well after the break up, we promised we’d stay friends, but it was intense. If I’m honest, I was still pretty clingy to her because well I still had some hope that after I graduate we could study together and well, just be together. At the time, I wanted to study somewhere else, about two states away from her, which looking back was a bad idea. Anyways, after a while we got into a huge argument, our first argument, in which she called me out for being clingy, and her for not caring. After a while, she said our relationship was never real, which hurt a lot at the time. It left me in disbelief, which I then told her no wonder she had some shitty boyfriends in the past, and will probably keep dating shitty people. This was a terrible thing to say in my part, and I can’t stop regretting it. Well, after that she said that she couldn’t have waited for a maybe, (because I wasn’t even going to study where she lived) and that she couldnt keep talking to someone so one-minded.
That was the last time I’ve spoked to her and it was around a month and a week ago. I tried to contact her several times through her friend, twice she said no, and about a week ago she said she was okay with talking to me. I told her friend to tell her that I’m open whenever, and I was really hoping to talk to her before or on my birthday. Well today is my birthday and I still haven’t talked to her.
Sorry for the long post, but I needed somewhere to say everything without much judgement. Any advice is appreciated.
We met online a while ago, and we really clicked together. We talked a bunch almost everyday and to me it was like I finally found someone that was like me, a nerd but one that also works out and has a life outside of videogames. I instantly loved that, and I noticed I started falling for her before I even saw her face.
When I finally got to see pictures of her, she was, in my eyes, the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. She looked so natural, and she really didn’t bother applying the pounds of make up most girls these days wear (Which is fine, just not really my thing.) Anywho, after about a month off teasing and flirting, well we got really intimate. After that night, I asked her what are we, and well at first she said she really liked me, but that she didn’t know if she could really be with a guy that’s not there.
Long story short, I convinced her to give it a shot, that maybe it’ll be nice for us. And for 2 months, it was, she constantly reminded me that she loved me, that she was really happy I convinced her and that she wanted no one else. I couldn’t have been happier during these days... But well, one day she didn’t talk to me all day, which was strange, after talking and asking what was wrong(we promised we would always be communicative with each other) she tood me that she felt off, that not having me there really hurt her because she really loved me and wanted nothing else for me to be there. But that since I wasn’t, she didnt know if she could still keep trying, that she spent too much time crying and felt so lonely when she wasn’t talking to me. This broke my heart, not just because she was essentially breaking up with me, but because this relationship at times hurt her more than it did her good.
Well after the break up, we promised we’d stay friends, but it was intense. If I’m honest, I was still pretty clingy to her because well I still had some hope that after I graduate we could study together and well, just be together. At the time, I wanted to study somewhere else, about two states away from her, which looking back was a bad idea. Anyways, after a while we got into a huge argument, our first argument, in which she called me out for being clingy, and her for not caring. After a while, she said our relationship was never real, which hurt a lot at the time. It left me in disbelief, which I then told her no wonder she had some shitty boyfriends in the past, and will probably keep dating shitty people. This was a terrible thing to say in my part, and I can’t stop regretting it. Well, after that she said that she couldn’t have waited for a maybe, (because I wasn’t even going to study where she lived) and that she couldnt keep talking to someone so one-minded.
That was the last time I’ve spoked to her and it was around a month and a week ago. I tried to contact her several times through her friend, twice she said no, and about a week ago she said she was okay with talking to me. I told her friend to tell her that I’m open whenever, and I was really hoping to talk to her before or on my birthday. Well today is my birthday and I still haven’t talked to her.
Sorry for the long post, but I needed somewhere to say everything without much judgement. Any advice is appreciated.
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