We have been married for a few years now but our respective jobs forced us to move away (different countries). My husband moved in with a female friend few months ago, since he is in between jobs and is unable to keep up with the rent; he said yes to the first person he knew was looking for a place to stay. At first I was okay with this decision since I wouldn't want him to go broke either. But now I hear that they're bonding for instance, shopping together, cooking at times, etc. I find this unnecessary. Living in the same apartment is one thing, but I feel like there is no need for him to put efforts to spend time with this person. I don't have trust issues, but I am uncomfortable with this socializing bit. Am I overthinking? Do I come off as jealous? I do feel a tinge of jealousy as I'd rather it was me doing all those activities with him. Long distance has certainly been difficult but hearing this in times like these is making it hard for me to think rationally. And when I told him the same he was taken aback. Said I was the one who suggested him to get a roommate in the first place (I did, however I was hoping it'd be a guy roommate). When he mentioned he was planning on signing a lease/contract together, it freaked me out furthermore and I just lost my shit and got angry at him. This is after me telling him how uncomfortable I am that he is choosing to spend time with the new roommate and get to know her.
I'm sorry for my jumbled and poor language. I'm just jotting down my thoughts as they come. And I'm really upset with the way he has handled the situation so far. Do I really need to explicitly tell him about boundaries? Am I crazy in thinking that this behaviour is uncalled for? Ugh.
I'm sorry for my jumbled and poor language. I'm just jotting down my thoughts as they come. And I'm really upset with the way he has handled the situation so far. Do I really need to explicitly tell him about boundaries? Am I crazy in thinking that this behaviour is uncalled for? Ugh.
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