Question About When Wil He Write

[FierceFoxie]

My guy was deployed and I am just wondering how soon is a reasonable time to expect him to start writing? I imagine the first week gone is probably crazy busy and he will be getting settled and everything and I imagine at the 2 week mark is when he might start to get a little lonesome and then it could take a week in the mail to even receive a letter from him. So I am thinking it will probably be another few weeks until I hear from him, if he even writes. Is that a safe assumption? We were just starting to get to know one another when he found out he was getting deployed. We had met and then he found out about a week and a half after we met that he was being deployed so we were not in any sort of relationship. I just consider him a man I am getting to know.

[Jgui]

I think it's hard to tell when he will write.... Depending on the job he does he could be working random hours and super long shifts. Does he have interest acces? If so, maybe you can just drop him an email or something.. I go on a week without hearing from my SO at times..

Good luck and hang in there

[rebelcadet]

When my SO was deployed...it all depends on the base he is at. Unless they individually pay for a satellite net connection they have to share a computer with everyone else there. Which means they may or may not have time to use the computer to write to you. Everyone is trying to get a hold of their family and friends so you have to be patient. Sometimes it might take a week...maybe two...or longer. You just have to trust and pray for him because it's tough enough to be without the normal things we take for granted.

I'm sure he will contact you when he can. It really keeps his moral up and happy if you send him care packages and give him a hand written note just to let him know you are thinking about him I use to spray some perfume in the letter to remind him of my smell hehe.....he use to love that! He said nothing smelled as great as he did while he was deployed!

[notyourexgirlfriend]

Going from military experience and knowing others who have deployed, it can take upwards of 3 - 4 weeks for letters to start arriving from those that are deployed depending on how long and how reliable the mail service is. It also depends on whether they're deployed in a rather sensitive location and sending mail out straight away my give away their location. There are so many factors which affect it. Hopefully you'll get a letter soon!

[FierceFoxie]

Thanks ladies. I am constantly thinking about him since he left. These 3 months are going to get the best of me! lol

[edgey_me]

what branch is he in? and what is it rate/rank?
no one can tell you when to expect a letter. its never easy to have time to write you loved ones, but trust me its on his priorities list. when he gets time and materials he will write just don't expect it to be long and don't expect him to be able to share what he is doing... be strong for him. thats what he needs more than anything.

[FierceFoxie]

what branch is he in? and what is it rate/rank?
no one can tell you when to expect a letter. its never easy to have time to write you loved ones, but trust me its on his priorities list. when he gets time and materials he will write just don't expect it to be long and don't expect him to be able to share what he is doing... be strong for him. thats what he needs more than anything.

He is a civilian. He was a SEAL. He is doing a private security position right now.

[FierceFoxie]

I guess I can stop obsessing about running out to check the mail daily. I just read on yahoo answers that people report mail to Afghanistan taking 3-4 weeks and he has only been gone for 1 1/2 weeks so it will probably be another 2-3 weeks before I hear from him. If he even writes me.

[Semperfikindoflove]

It could be a while and the letters may arrive really late. My ex wrote to me on a dozen occasions and I only received one letter and that was 6 months after deployment ended. I wish you the best of luck, mail stinks during deployment so hopefully you guys discussed possible phone calls. Having a deployed significant other is difficult. I've been through it multiple times, I work with the Marines and their girlfriends/wives on a regular basis so I understand what you're going through. I've dated a few of my buddies who are Marines and I've been through multiple deployments. If you need anything please feel free to ask for help. I've been doing this for about four years now!

[FierceFoxie]

It could be a while and the letters may arrive really late. My ex wrote to me on a dozen occasions and I only received one letter and that was 6 months after deployment ended. I wish you the best of luck, mail stinks during deployment so hopefully you guys discussed possible phone calls. Having a deployed significant other is difficult. I've been through it multiple times, I work with the Marines and their girlfriends/wives on a regular basis so I understand what you're going through. I've dated a few of my buddies who are Marines and I've been through multiple deployments. If you need anything please feel free to ask for help. I've been doing this for about four years now!

We didn't discuss phone calls or emailing. Snail mail writing was the only thing discussed.

A question I have is, is it helpful to avoid all media about what's going on over there? I got an email this morning from military.com and it showed a related story so I clicked on it and read about where some troops were killed in the part that my guy was sent to. So now I am really concerned and I know this is not helpful to me because it will still be a few weeks before I hear from him and even that is not a guarantee. If something happened to him,

If something happened to him, I would have no choice but to assume he lost interest and never bothered writing me because no one would be able to know what was going on between us unless someone looked into his text messages and saw our text exchanges prior to him leaving.