Pretty Certain I've Been Lied To

[FierceFoxie]

Well, so the guy I was dating was deployed 3 1/2 weeks ago. He doesn't know but I was checking his FB page (we never friended one another) but he displays his photos publicly. He was posting photos of him in his home where he was shaving off his beard he was suppose to be growing for deployment. It didn't make sense to me about these photo uploads, if he was already suppose to be gone. I called his # from my house phone and he picked up. I was shocked! I explained why i was confused and he asked if he could call me right back. He didn't. I texted him hours later just saying how disappointed I was that he lied to me instead of just being honest. He swore he can explain everything and that there was a change and he was only back home for a few days. He said he couldn't talk right now because he his parents are there. But that was 2 days ago. he has not tried to call or further contact me about it.

My good friend started looking into him since she knows a SEAL commander. Turns out the man I was dating did not graduate as a SEAL and is probably being investigated now. I'm fairly certain he now lied to me about ever being deployed as well. I now think everything that came out of his mouth was a lie. I am so confused and hurt.

[snow_girl]

I have no advice but I'm sorry, it can't be easy to find out everything you thought was true turned out to be a lie. I guess you need to decide if it is worth getting to the bottom of it (even though lies breed more lies) or making a clean break and work on getting over him.

[lucybelle]

I say move on. No need to have to put up with all those lies.

[FierceFoxie]

I say move on. No need to have to put up with all those lies.

Yep, I am moving on. I still don't know what's truth but the fact he lied about being a SEAL, that is a huge enough red flag for me to move on. I honestly could have cared less about whether or not he was in the military and him talking about it all the time didn't impress me anymore either. I knew it was a part of his life he was proud of so I didn't mind him going on about it but to point blank lie about it, that's messed up.

So now I am not LDR once again. I think I am really going to strive to meet someone local this time.

[audrey92]

hi, im am very very sorry to hear about all this. I hate to say it but from what i have gotten from what you said he for sure wasnt a seal. He probly didnt even make it to BUDS... I am glad to hear you are making a clean break, because honestly girl you need to run, and run fast!! Did you ever meet this man in person? because i'm even starting to wonder if he was active..

[Jgui]

I hope he knows that it's a federal crime if he impersonate as a military member when he isn't. I was talking to a guy before whom claims he was Ranger in the Army and telling me his rank, things didn't add up in my head so i confronted him and he was so embarrassed. It's sad, but true that there are people like that out there.

Ditch this loser guy and find yourself a real man.

[FierceFoxie]

hi, im am very very sorry to hear about all this. I hate to say it but from what i have gotten from what you said he for sure wasnt a seal. He probly didnt even make it to BUDS... I am glad to hear you are making a clean break, because honestly girl you need to run, and run fast!! Did you ever meet this man in person? because i'm even starting to wonder if he was active..

Yes, I met him in person and I saw the photos of him in Afghanistan displayed on his walls but there is something terribly wrong with this man. A few days ago he popped up on the dating site I met him on with a new profile. I could not believe what my eyes saw. He had specifically told me his ex-wife died during child birth with their son, well in his new profile he said he has full custody of his kids and that there is no baby mama drama because he hasn't seen her in 4 years. His son is 6! So he lied to me about her dying in childbirth! He seriously has mental problems.

[FierceFoxie]

I hope he knows that it's a federal crime if he impersonate as a military member when he isn't. I was talking to a guy before whom claims he was Ranger in the Army and telling me his rank, things didn't add up in my head so i confronted him and he was so embarrassed. It's sad, but true that there are people like that out there.

Ditch this loser guy and find yourself a real man.

Amen! I ditched this guy so fast. No need for liars in my life.

On another note, my ex bf that I had mentioned many times on this forum back in April when I saw problems arising; and I are in contact again. It turns out he got the job we were praying for last spring and he moved closer to me 2 weeks ago. We started communicating again a few weeks ago but there were always real short messages and 4-5 days would go by without either of us saying a word.

I wrote him a long email last night just to take responsibility for my faults in the relationship and he responded within minutes to it, even suggesting we hang out soon. This morning I was greeted with yet another response from him to the email and then a few minutes later he text messaged me and continued to text me all day and this evening. He even asked for me to send him a photo so he could add it to my contact info. I am very hopeful that things can be rekindled and we can pick up where we left off at. I was soooo in love with him and I didn't want the relationship to end.

Neither one of us have stated anything about missing one another or giving things a second go but I think he is open to the idea. He was majorly flirting with me!

The other strange part is yesterday marks the first day we met, a year ago. Coincidence that things changed nearly overnight? I think not!

[rixue]

Glad you ditched that loser!

Hopefully you can rekindle things with your ex

[FierceFoxie]

Glad you ditched that loser!

Hopefully you can rekindle things with your ex

Thank you!

[Rach321]

Sending good thoughts that things go well with your ex!! Sounds like the timing might be right.

[FierceFoxie]

Sending good thoughts that things go well with your ex!! Sounds like the timing might be right.

Thank you. I am not sure what we are doing but we have been communicating daily (all day via text) for a few weeks and last night he drove to my city (an hour drive for him now) to take me to dinner. We haven't talked about the relationship or whether or not we still have feelings, miss one another or want to get back together. I am just viewing it as "dating". I will keep you posted though.