I need some advice /:

[jamietaylorr]

My boyfriend, Dylan, and I met about eight months ago and became "official" six months ago. We talk every single day, and I cannot honestly imagine my life or future without him. I am sixteen, and he is eighteen. My parents will not let me go there because they really don't have the time nor money, and I cannot be sent alone because they don't know his family. His mother won't let him come out here simply because she doesn't want him having a girlfriend right now. Because he's leaving for the Marines in two months. I know we won't meet(if we do, it'll probably only be once for a day), and I know that every time he can come home, he'll go home to his mother. And she told him that when he's out of the Marines in four years, she wants him to come back and live with her until he gathers up some money. I just really am lost.. I don't want to wait four years for someone I never met because what if we meet and just totally don't hit it off? I'll be 21 by the time he's home. He's just too perfect though. Everything about him makes me smile. I'm just not sure if I can do it. Nor do I know what to do. And I cannot ask my mom because all she says is "you need a boyfriend who lives here and can take you out on dates". She won't listen to what I have to say.

[xoPinkMargarita]

That's really a tough call to make hun.. With you being only 16 and him being 18.. He can make his own choices... I met my boyfriend now when he was in the Marines but at the time I met him in person he came out to Arizona on a whim to see one of my real life friends/his fiancee then and I knew that he was out here and I wanted to meet him as well as hang out with her so I invited them both to my New Years Eve party and that was the only time I've met him.. I know that fate brought us together and I know that we will see each other in person again.. you just have to hold on and wait what fate has in store for you.. I am sorry that I am not giving you the best advice but at least I am giving you some.

[Sora1101]

I met my SO when I was 15 and we won't be closing the distance until I'm 20. We visit each other once a year because we both have no money and it takes us forever to save up. So let me tell you up front. It is hard, harder than you can imagine and if you aren't 120% committed then it's just not going to be worth it and you'd be better off with someone close by. You're young (and I know that sounds like a lame excuse trust me I get it) but you really need to think about whether or not you want to spend your high school life not going on dates, having girl talk about boyfriends with friends, double dating, walking to class with your boyfriend and enjoying classes together. There's also prom and other school functions you'd be going to alone. Do you really want to do that? It is possible, I got through it but you need to decide if that's what you want your life to be.

[aomnomnom]

Hi, I know its hard to find the right person and you dont want to let him go. But i think the girls before me has a point. I personally think that LDR is only bearable when you know exactly when and how you could be together. I'm not discouraging you here, but I think it's just really too hard for such a young couple to make it work without being there for eachother in person for such a long time. I'm not an expert here, I have never met my boy in person either because I have to finish school in my home country and he's on deployment right now. I do have a plan to visit and move to be with him in 2013, so, the whole waiting period is not all that pointless. But you are only 16, still depending on your parents. Unless you have a talk with him when he's already a marine to come and visit you every once in awhile then it is not worth trying. 4 full years without seeing eachother in an exclusive relationship is just too much in my opinion. All i can say now is for you to talk to him about this and save up the money.

[SonyaKitty]

Wait till your 18, then you don't need anyone's permission to see him, and he already dosnt need his mom's ,if your willing to put in the effort I'd say you should start saving up for a plane ticket for when your 18. No need to wait till your 21! You love him so work hard to make it work!

[Ben (Bun)]

As a marine myself I can say he needs to tell his mom to big off and come visit you before he's in. If he had the same feelings for you he would do that. Also pass this MSG on. "Mommas boys don't make good marines. Grow a pair and go visit your girl."

[jamietaylorr]

yeah still havent met and he leaves in less than a month /:

[hrp2007]

Aw :/ sorry to hear that.

[Black_Halloween]

He needs to grow a pair, he's 18 and can go anywhere he wants to

[cloud1661]

In all honesty I agree with the peps saying that he needs to grow a pair, and do what he wants to do with his life.

Also while you are in the military it is not like you are deployed 24/7 the whole time, it differs for each of the services, but there are times where you can take leave, go home and go where ever you want.

If he is going to let his mother control his life like that, he ain't going to make in any service.

If he really cares about you, he will make an effort to come see you...but obviously wait till your 18 before making any serious decisions.

Those are just my opinions.

[jamietaylorr]

Well. He's been gone for over a month. We are planning on hopefully meeting when he graduates..

[kikidee]

Hey girl,
Sorry about your situation. My guy is in the Air Force and hes in South Dakota, which in some ways is good because I live in CA and he originally lived in Kentucky. But now the military only lets him go on leave like twice a year :/ and he signed on for another 5 years, so that's why we haven't become official yet. Because I'm not sure if I can take 5 more years of being away from him, and possibly only seeing each other for two times a year, even though he said he can come for like a month each time.
So you'll have to consider how much you'll be restricted, and then to think he'd only be visiting his mom? I don't know, sounds like he's making you come to him /: which I think the guy should come to you at least the first time. But a tough situation. You should tell him you need to see him one of the times he comes home, communication should be big especially in a LDR.