Not sure if I should try

[Bellamac90]

So here is my story.

My cousin got married in May in which I was a bridesmaid. At the end of the reception, the whole wedding party went to the bar in the casino to have extra drinks and to have some more fun. I ended up waking up next to the Groom's brother. We instantly had hit it off at the wedding, danced the night away. So When I woke up next to him, I was extremely happy that it was him. We exchanged numbers, and have been talking ever since. Unfortunately he is in the Air Force and is stationed in Hawaii at the moment. I haven't been able to visit him because he told me he would be very busy with an audit and I should wait until after August to visit. I made plans to see him in the middle of September while he is in California for a concert. I am extremely excited to finally see him, but he also has expressed his lack of interest to rush into a relationship at this moment. After telling him that I really liked him and would like a relationship out of this friendship, he said he just got out of a two year relationship before the wedding. He was not interested in starting a new relationship. I am not sure where to go from here.

[Brieasaurus]

You can't force someone into a relationship, especially one that's as difficult as an LDR. I'd say give it time but honestly, it doesn't sound like something you should fully invest yourself in. Sorry.

[alizee]

I agree with Brieasaurus. But I do appreciate the fact that he*s being honest with you and is not playing with you! Give it some time and see how things evolve between you two. LDRs are hard, I know, but I really don*t understand why did you two exchanged numers in the first place. Wasn*t this for a possible love relationship? I mean you thought that way, but I don*t know what was he thinking .... men can be very strange sometimes. My man also seems strange in his attitude towards me - he doesn*t seem to want to talk to me daily, only every 2-3 days (some days, it seems he forgets about me, because that is how I am feeling and this is just killing me!!!!), but on the other hand he invites me whenever he cans to visit him. Sometimes he seems cold, uninterested in the conversation and sometimes he seems so opened and close to me! It*s confusing me with his attitude!
So, there is another exemple of a strange attitude from your man ... maybe when you two will meet (by the way, in mid September I am meeting my SO for the first time also!!!!) he will change his mind, and the beautiful days that you will spend together will make him want to try to be in a relationship with you. Good Luck!!!!

[digitalfever]

Appreciate the night for what is was "a night." When a guy wants to call you, see you, or be around you... he'll make it happen. When they want to be in a relationship with you they'll do whatever it takes. I wouldn't waste my time with this one.

[ushiwakafox]

Yea I'm feeling the same about this, I don't think you should waste any more time with him. Not saying he's a bad guy, like alizee said, he was honest with you, which really saves you a LOT of trouble in the future. Don't take it personally, he's probably still got some emotional baggage that he needs to deal with.