How to keep spirits up 800 miles away????

[kelley&dale]

My bf is always complaining how exhausted and tired he is from work. I always tell him Im sorry and wish that I can make it better for him. He sounds so sad and miserable. How do you show love and raise spirits when can only text?

[lyonsgirl]

How do you show love and raise spirits when can only text?

You can't call him or send him things (a postcard, a letter, or maybe a small package)? Personally, I loved getting mail from my SO when we were LD. Packages were the best. Emails were just as awesome. Texting is great and all, but a letter takes "real" effort.

[kelley&dale]

I can call, but we were texting last night and I guess he was fine with that. I wanted more but always do. I had asked me around a certain time if we could Skype and he told he was tired and still hadn't ate anything. As well said that he doesn't get off there to easy. Meaning that to Skype he wants to spend a long time together. Our relationship is new. I drove to him Thanksgiving week and spent the entire week with him. It was amazing but being home now I feel lost with out him. I would love to send him a letter or package. Just don't want to be pushy though. I could of stayed with the way I feel about him. He loves Cheerios, and yes I know cheesy but I want to send him a box. Simplicity means a lot to me.

[lyonsgirl]

Sounds to me like you need to have an actual conversation with him about this.

And you may consider relaxing a bit. Yea, it's hard. No, you never get enough time with your SO. I know for us, our Skype dates weren't ever less than an hour, so yea. We kind of had to commit to that being our only evening activity. Sure, you can say, "But you can cook while we talk!" Not really. It's way easier to just cook and eat, and not have to worry about entertaining the person on the other side of the chat.

[kelley&dale]

I have never done anything like this. All so new to me in every way. We Skype for hours so, I respect and understand what he said by not easy to get off Skype. I took that as a compliment. Just hearing his voice or seeing his smile is amazing and always leaves me wanting more. Did Skype pretty much everyday?

[Ejoriah]

I agree with lyonsgirl that you need to talk to him about things - mainly expectations of communication and finding a medium where you're both happy. I also think that sending him Cheerios is a sweet idea, especially since you know he loves them.

[lyonsgirl]

I have never done anything like this. All so new to me in every way. We Skype for hours so, I respect and understand what he said by not easy to get off Skype. I took that as a compliment. Just hearing his voice or seeing his smile is amazing and always leaves me wanting more. Did Skype pretty much everyday?

I'm going to assume that you asked if we Skyped every day. No, we didn't. We talked every day, but most days it was a couple of texts back and forth, or maybe if we were lucky, a short (20 mins or less) phone call. Skype was once a week, if we were lucky. More often though, it ended up being once or twice a month.

[kelley&dale]

I agree with lyonsgirl that you need to talk to him about things - mainly expectations of communication and finding a medium where you're both happy. I also think that sending him Cheerios is a sweet idea, especially since you know he loves them.

He is so tired when he gets home from work....literally exhausted. Like that when I was there the entire week, was so hard just to see him pass out from exhaustion. I don't think he meant anything by just texting. My thoughts though I would rather skpe for five minutes then text for an hour. Just to see his face. I miss him like crazy. I want to see him mail or even a package, but don't want to smother him. I just left Saturday morning and that actually was the first time we met, stayed 7 days with him.

[kelley&dale]

I'm going to assume that you asked if we Skyped every day. No, we didn't. We talked every day, but most days it was a couple of texts back and forth, or maybe if we were lucky, a short (20 mins or less) phone call. Skype was once a week, if we were lucky. More often though, it ended up being once or twice a month.

Yes I was asking if you did Skype everyday, sorry I missed a word or two. Havent did Skype since I have returned, but prior it was everyday many times a day. Never talked on the phone, because Skype was better. He would Skype me in the shower, lol. Guess I have more then I thought. I just miss him so much. Being with him for 7 days straight and now 800 miles away is so hard. Extremely attached to him.

[sweetdevil]

Send him a nice card
You can make the card as 'less-pushy' if you want

[kelley&dale]

Send him a nice card
You can make the card as 'less-pushy' if you want

I gave him one the night before I left. I want to be near him but don't want to push him away. He loves Cheerios, not sure if you seen that. Was thinking about sending him some. Yes I know a little cheesy, but I had told him at the house I was going to get some. Before I could say I changed my mind he was like "where are they"...lol

[kelley&dale]

I agree with lyonsgirl that you need to talk to him about things - mainly expectations of communication and finding a medium where you're both happy. I also think that sending him Cheerios is a sweet idea, especially since you know he loves them.

We were supposed to Skype tonight but work called and he is still there. I just don't know if I'm strong enough for all this. I just want to grab him and hold him. Think tomorrow going to send him the cereal. He goes on leave soon, an will not return till after the 1st.

[Curly]

Thanks for posting this thread. Im new to all of this as well. I appreciate all the advice here.