Unknown Territory
Hello Everyone!
I'm new here. I joined the site, because I have a unique situation, and honestly, have no idea what to do about it! Haha.
Some background, is that I'm a Christian girl, 19 years old, in college. I'm not someone who just dates for the sake of dating, but I'm always searching out that someone in my life.
I've been a member of Christian Mingle for a year or so. I've talked to many people on it, gone on a couple of dates, and I like the site because it does let me kinda sort through, all the while knowing that they're in the same boat. Needless to say, the 4 other guys I had been talking to, one after another, just didn't work out. No big deal. Seems to me, that a recurring theme here though, is that 3 out of the 4, are all military guys. Anyone who knows me, would say it made sense. My dad runs a securities company, and has been in martial arts for 30 years. On top of that, I grew up with two brothers. It was a recipe for a tough chick. So, a lot of guys love the fact that they can talk to be about their weapons and tactics, and I'm not staring blankly at them.
Before I had talked to anyone in the military, I understood and read up on the challenges that people face with people in active duty. I live a busy lifestyle as well, and I thing that long distance relationships are actually incredibly romantic. Thus, I decided, this would be something that I could deal with if the opportunity arose, and let's face it...every girl love's a guy in uniform.
Time passed, I got lax about looking on the site. Then he came along. At this point, I was too broke to pay for a subscription to actually be able to 'message' him, so we had to send these automated messages back and forth. He pursued me like crazy. Almost every day, I had something new in my mailbox. He was a marine, he was adorable, and he was a an of God. I HAD to find a way to talk to him. I tried encoding riddles into my profile to give him my name to look me up on facebook, goodness, it was like the darn davinci code, and I could tell he was trying as well. FINALLY, he encoded his phone number to me, and I got to talk to him. We did this riddle thing, for two weeks. For two weeks, he kept at trying to contact me. More than expect a lot of people to do.
We introduced ourselves, and it was instant chemistry. I knew almost instantly, something was really special. We talked, daily, without those awkward end to text convo's that go kind of like " haha, cool..." - " yeah..." - anyway...night. " Nope, none of it, it was a breath of fresh air. He asked questions about me, and I him, and he told me about his service. He's stationed four hours away from me in active duty. He texted me daily, first, before I had the chance to, and called on regular occasions. We skyped a couple of times when he had a moment to spare, and he was incredibly sweet. It seemed too good to be true. So we talked like this, for over a month, and I made sure that he knew he was appreciated, and definitely tried to express my feelings in a non creepy way, and he was actually the first, on several occasions to bring up future plans about meeting, and different activies we could do.
All of the sudden, everything changed. I can pinpoint the odd moment to being Sunday night, so April the 6th. Without warning, he was just distant. He didn't respond to the last text that night, and the next morning, nothing. I thought, perhaps he just wants to feel pursued as well, so I texted him. He responded cheerfully, but no where near what we'd normally been experiencing. I'd asked him casually if anything was new, the usual questions, and he seemed normal, just not excited. that night, the conversation ended with him not responding again. Up until today, this went back and forth, he'd texted me first the day after I texted him, and then I had to the next day, and then over again. Except, yesterday, he never responded after lunch time when we'd talked last. I haven't spoken to him since.
I'm a very understanding person, so I really hope that he just has something going on, and everything will return to normal in a few days or more, but at the same time, it seems odd to me that it just died all the sudden. Nothing big happened between us, it was just out of the blue. I know what pursuing a guy too much, leads to, which is just pushing him away, so I've resolved to letting it go right now, and hoping and praying he takes the initiative. I would call more often, but I usually let him because I don't want to disturb him while he's working.
So with that all in mind, I guess my question is, is have any of you faced something like this?/ what is your input on what may be going on?/ what should I do/not do?
I'd really appreciate it, thanks!
T
I'm new here. I joined the site, because I have a unique situation, and honestly, have no idea what to do about it! Haha.
Some background, is that I'm a Christian girl, 19 years old, in college. I'm not someone who just dates for the sake of dating, but I'm always searching out that someone in my life.
I've been a member of Christian Mingle for a year or so. I've talked to many people on it, gone on a couple of dates, and I like the site because it does let me kinda sort through, all the while knowing that they're in the same boat. Needless to say, the 4 other guys I had been talking to, one after another, just didn't work out. No big deal. Seems to me, that a recurring theme here though, is that 3 out of the 4, are all military guys. Anyone who knows me, would say it made sense. My dad runs a securities company, and has been in martial arts for 30 years. On top of that, I grew up with two brothers. It was a recipe for a tough chick. So, a lot of guys love the fact that they can talk to be about their weapons and tactics, and I'm not staring blankly at them.
Before I had talked to anyone in the military, I understood and read up on the challenges that people face with people in active duty. I live a busy lifestyle as well, and I thing that long distance relationships are actually incredibly romantic. Thus, I decided, this would be something that I could deal with if the opportunity arose, and let's face it...every girl love's a guy in uniform.
Time passed, I got lax about looking on the site. Then he came along. At this point, I was too broke to pay for a subscription to actually be able to 'message' him, so we had to send these automated messages back and forth. He pursued me like crazy. Almost every day, I had something new in my mailbox. He was a marine, he was adorable, and he was a an of God. I HAD to find a way to talk to him. I tried encoding riddles into my profile to give him my name to look me up on facebook, goodness, it was like the darn davinci code, and I could tell he was trying as well. FINALLY, he encoded his phone number to me, and I got to talk to him. We did this riddle thing, for two weeks. For two weeks, he kept at trying to contact me. More than expect a lot of people to do.
We introduced ourselves, and it was instant chemistry. I knew almost instantly, something was really special. We talked, daily, without those awkward end to text convo's that go kind of like " haha, cool..." - " yeah..." - anyway...night. " Nope, none of it, it was a breath of fresh air. He asked questions about me, and I him, and he told me about his service. He's stationed four hours away from me in active duty. He texted me daily, first, before I had the chance to, and called on regular occasions. We skyped a couple of times when he had a moment to spare, and he was incredibly sweet. It seemed too good to be true. So we talked like this, for over a month, and I made sure that he knew he was appreciated, and definitely tried to express my feelings in a non creepy way, and he was actually the first, on several occasions to bring up future plans about meeting, and different activies we could do.
All of the sudden, everything changed. I can pinpoint the odd moment to being Sunday night, so April the 6th. Without warning, he was just distant. He didn't respond to the last text that night, and the next morning, nothing. I thought, perhaps he just wants to feel pursued as well, so I texted him. He responded cheerfully, but no where near what we'd normally been experiencing. I'd asked him casually if anything was new, the usual questions, and he seemed normal, just not excited. that night, the conversation ended with him not responding again. Up until today, this went back and forth, he'd texted me first the day after I texted him, and then I had to the next day, and then over again. Except, yesterday, he never responded after lunch time when we'd talked last. I haven't spoken to him since.
I'm a very understanding person, so I really hope that he just has something going on, and everything will return to normal in a few days or more, but at the same time, it seems odd to me that it just died all the sudden. Nothing big happened between us, it was just out of the blue. I know what pursuing a guy too much, leads to, which is just pushing him away, so I've resolved to letting it go right now, and hoping and praying he takes the initiative. I would call more often, but I usually let him because I don't want to disturb him while he's working.
So with that all in mind, I guess my question is, is have any of you faced something like this?/ what is your input on what may be going on?/ what should I do/not do?
I'd really appreciate it, thanks!
T
Well I haven't heard back crom you in a while...soo...kinda wondering what's going on? You seemed to have fallen off the face of the Earth all of the sudden, left me hanging. At least let me know everything is ok, and nothing happened to you. 
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