missing my man

[Jeanette14]

I am in a relationship with a man in USA army and I've not heard from him in days. This is my first time and its all so daunting. How do I cope not knowing if he's safe where he is.

[erwin1973]

So he's in the army. Did he tell you he'd be going on a hike or so, where he can't have contact? Or did he just stop responding?

[Jeanette14]

He didn't say he was going anywhere, he's acting sergeant and in Palestine at the moment. I know its only been 3 days so far but seems a lifetime. He did say that sometimes he can't use the computor. But you just worry and mind goes overtime.

[erwin1973]

He did say that sometimes he can't use the computor.

How did you prepare for that possibility?
Of course I can understand you're worried.

[Jeanette14]

This is my first relationship with an army man. His last message he sent me was saying that he misses me and loves me. We have had a couple of video links to talk. But he usually messages every evening. I know there's times he can't message. Its the not knowing that doesn't help.

[c_denise3]

My fiance is in the US Navy, and serves on a submarine. I don't know much about the Army, but I do know that they often go on a lot of field trainings that can last several weeks at a time, and they have no contact. Just remind yourself that he's working and you'll hear from him soon enough. Waiting is awful, but this is unfortunately the life we live as a military significant other.

As mentioned, my fiance is on a submarine. He goes on long underways (trainings) and I only have contact via email, which is very scarce at times. Sometimes I don't get emails for days. Sometimes our emails don't get to each other. It's a rough life, but we manage. I know he's working, I know he's busy, and I know how difficult communication on a submarine can be. It's hard to not let your mind wander, but just hold on to optimism and faith that he's okay. Hang in there.

[Jeanette14]

Thank you, I know he's retiring soon. He's on a peace mission in Palestine. I know there's problems out there at the moment. So that's why I worry more.

[c_denise3]

Thank you, I know he's retiring soon. He's on a peace mission in Palestine. I know there's problems out there at the moment. So that's why I worry more.

Be careful mentioning his location. You don't want to potentially put his safety at risk.

[Jeanette14]

Thank you I didn't think of that.