Blah blah blah blah Parents.....

[Bex2804]

So is anyone else in the situation where your parents are just getting annoying? My parents were a little skeptic about my LDR when I told them but luckily for me my parents know that when I want something, I normally get it in the end however long it takes.... HOWEVER my SO's parents are different. Even though they were in a LDR when they first got together ( they were older than us) they don't seem to understand that, YES we do need to talk at least once a day at the moment because with me being back at school and my SO going back to school on Monday, we are going to be able to talk even less than we are at the moment. Turning the wifi off and refusing to put it back on doesn't really help the whole talking thing... I suppose I should be lucky that I get to talk to him at all even if it is only for half an hour per day but come on, we are 1100 miles apart, please try and understand?!! Grrr... sorry rant over.. It just really annoys me and I know it annoys him a lot more and makes him sad then knowing he is sad annoys me even more....

[D.4C]

ok..well..not knowing other details of this...i am guessing you are in high school?...oddly enough..your parents are skeptic and worried because...they are your parents...and it is their job...and same with his parents....as for turning off the wifi...did they turn it off for this reason...or for another reason?...like not doing chores around the house...or whatever...i know it's sometimes hard to see where parents are coming from...but they do have your best interest at heart...maybe sit down and talk with them...both of you...talk to them...not at them...no raised voices...and really explain things...conversation is one of the most lacking things in any relationships...romantic or parents or siblings or whatever...good luck...

[Bex2804]

Well I'm in secondary school which i think is the same as high school I do understand about our parents and my parents are good enough to let me go on holiday with him next easter, but the wifi thing, there is no decent reason for his parents turning it off.... So, anyway, i've got things sorted with my parents, they always ask how he is/talk to him when I'm on skype with him, but the thing is, how to I get his parents to understand? Everytime he tries to talk to his parents they dont want to know :S

[D.4C]

i think maybe his parents will come around if they see that you two care about each other...and that the relationship lasts...some parents don't really totally get the whole meeting someone online and having a long distance relationship...whether they did it that way or not...give them some time...i truly think they will come around...since the wifi is down and skype isn't an option and that...just do whatever you can to keep in touch...sounds like you both really want the relationship....so it is worth doing whatever you need to do to keep things going...

[Bex2804]

Thanks for the advice, he met my parents this summer when he was in England ( when we met) but i havent met his parents but hopefully we will be able to show everyone it WILL work

[Eleven]

Hahayyyy same here :/ On my side was fine.
On hers, Not yet :/ oh the wifi thing,
just nvm that, just understand it.

Maybe tell your SO to be more active on their house.
I mean, the chores, assignments. etc.

Hope it will help. Just keep going, never give up.
You and ur SO will be happy and will close the distance soon.

[Bex2804]

Thanks Hopefully in two or three years he will move to England to go to University here then we can be together

[D.4C]

you are very welcome bex...i am hoping i can help in any little way...since i am 41...i've seen and been through my share of things...and am glad to help you out if i can....don't give up...if it's truly meant to be...both your parents will see it...good luck!!!!

[artgrl808]

Parents...it really doesn't help when they turn off the wifi. Anyways, my parents do those types of things too! I used to think that my parents were overreacting and punishing me because they wanted to, but that was not the case. Over the past few weeks, I have been doing my best to balance school, extracurriculars, and well my LDR. The main thing that parents want is trust. My parents told me that all they wanted for me was to do well in school, and change my attitude at home. I made a few adjustments to my routine, and now, since my grades and other important things have improved, they have complete trust in me. This trust has lead to letting me contact my SO whenever...why the change in parental behavior? Simple: I showed them that I was capable of getting stuff done, while at the same time having a little fun. I know parents can be a little rough around the edges, but they've experienced things we teens have yet to experience. LDRs are tough, but hang in there!!!
Best of Luck!

[enemey96]

It's the same for my SO, yeah his parents understand and everything, but sometimes they will on purpose keep the laptop until extremely late so that it's too late for us to skype.

[marentora]

Parents sometimes don't understand, that their child is growing and need something more for life... And their child is not a child right now, because is a teenager or a person who have only a few months to be an adult. But they are scared of you and I think, you're and his parents think, that firstly you should finnish school, then go to the University and achieve your life's goals. Sometimes they forget about the most important thing in the whole world - about love. In the beginning of my LDR I had some problems with my parents and sometimes I still have some problems, but now it's easier, because I have only 4 months to my 18th birthday (18th is an adult in my country). I have my own laptop, but he have the computer in a living room, so his parents sometimes don't allow him to use a computer in the night, when I can be online only in the evening and night, because of my school (I have 1,5 hour to school and I'm back home late). But fortunately we can talk to each other EVERYDAY I think, you should talk with your parents and he should do the same with his parents. Tell about your life values. Tell them, that if you can't spend time with him on the internet, it will be hard to achieve good grades for you. Talkw with them about your plans for future and tell them, that he's a reason of your happiness

[efish1042]

Lol my dad got so upset at our relationship at one point that he took away all of my electronics and my door. I was allowed calls from the house line to my SO once a week for like 10 minutes. Needless to say, this was the dark point in our relationship and it totally ruined my relationship with my dad. Btw, three years and distance closed later, he still isn't over it.

[Honour]

Lol my dad got so upset at our relationship at one point that he took away all of my electronics and my door. I was allowed calls from the house line to my SO once a week for like 10 minutes. Needless to say, this was the dark point in our relationship and it totally ruined my relationship with my dad. Btw, three years and distance closed later, he still isn't over it.

This sounds like what my other half's parents and my own did to us at one point to try and stop us from having contact. Took everything away that we had to contact each other, and restrict us to ridiculous lengths. Needless to say, times were difficult. We made secret Facebook profiles and would go online and talk whenever we could. We'd share pictures and video links, so we could still keep in touch. It was the only way we could see each other and keep our relationship alive. I've never forgiven my parents for it. They're extremely touchy about the subject and I simply can't explain it to them without it causing the breakdown of my relationship with them. It's ridiculous. They think that LDRs are a waste of time, part of our imagination, that we will never be together. I know otherwise, I just wish they'd see what I see.