She said she would wait?

[Maximum212]

I feel very good about this. I texted my ex who I still really like, and she likes me still too. We only broke up because my parents didn't want me dating yet. She told her parents about us and they seemed okay with us, as far as I know, they still aren't okay with her dating, but maybe that has changed. My parents weren't. I can't start looking for girlfriends until college. What amazes me and makes me so glad is that she said she plans to wait for me. However, do you think this is realistic? We have about 3 years until I'm technically allowed to date or at least start looking. I think it's possible that she could wait for me, and I'd be happy to wait for her too, I have no intention of moving on anytime soon.

A part of me is just like, I don't want to hold her back. Given that we met online and it was a LDR, I feel like if she waits for me, she'll be missing out. I have to wait too, but that's because of my parents. Even if I had the freedom to date now, she would be the one I want. But I can't be with her, not yet. I'm a bit conflicted about this. Happy, but conflicted. So is her waiting realistic? Would you wait if you were in my situation (this applies to both sexes)? Any help or advice would be appreciated I'm 15 and she's 14 turning 15 in November by the way.

[D.4C]

i've seen something like this before on lfad...not sure if you are the same person or not...but here's my thoughts...i don't get why your parents won't let you date until college...i dated when i was in high school...which is why they have dances and that...and i am now 41...and seeing that you are 886 miles apart...it's not like they can be worried that you guys are doing anything you aren't supposed to be...not sure why they would have a problem with you having a relationship that is mostly based by texting and phone calls and online...i guess that's a whole different problem...lol...as for her waiting for you...i think it is possible...if it's what you both really want...and for her...it wouldn't be missing out on anything if being with you is what she truly wants...would i do it if it was me?...if it felt right...yes i would...love knows no age...and when it is real..it's amazing...so my suggestion...is that you both talk to your parents...tell them you want to keep in touch by the ways i mentioned earlier...how important it is to you...talk to them in a good way...don't like...get all shitty with them....and i think they may come around....i wish you luck...love is definitely worth it

[alittlemind]

My boyfriend and I originally started dating when I was 14, and he was 15. (We're 16 and 17 now). His parents had set up a rule that he (and his siblings) shouldn't date until they were 16. The way they look at it, is that it's a privilege. Although they agreed to let us be together, we weren't allowed being alone. I guess it's different when you're in a LDR because they don't have to worry about that. They way your parents probably see it is that they want you to stay focused on school and becoming mature, and they think if you're spending a good amount of your time talking to a girl, you'll get distracted and the other things won't matter. This is generally what happens with young teenagers and relationships. For now, just stay friends with her. She says she'll wait now, but she's 14. Teenagers change their mind a lot. Of course there is a possibility that things will work out, but don't let it hold you back from other things. Lastly, to answer your question, if I wasn't allowed to date (which isn't the case) and I felt a strong connection with someone, I would stay friends with them, of course. But I wouldn't let it affect the feelings I might have towards someone else.

[Maximum212]

i've seen something like this before on lfad...not sure if you are the same person or not...but here's my thoughts...i don't get why your parents won't let you date until college...i dated when i was in high school...which is why they have dances and that...and i am now 41...and seeing that you are 886 miles apart...it's not like they can be worried that you guys are doing anything you aren't supposed to be...not sure why they would have a problem with you having a relationship that is mostly based by texting and phone calls and online...i guess that's a whole different problem...lol...as for her waiting for you...i think it is possible...if it's what you both really want...and for her...it wouldn't be missing out on anything if being with you is what she truly wants...would i do it if it was me?...if it felt right...yes i would...love knows no age...and when it is real..it's amazing...so my suggestion...is that you both talk to your parents...tell them you want to keep in touch by the ways i mentioned earlier...how important it is to you...talk to them in a good way...don't like...get all shitty with them....and i think they may come around....i wish you luck...love is definitely worth it

I don't see what they're so worried about either! We've tried talking to our parents already. Her parents took it well, but mine didn't. They stuck to their decision. I want to bring it up to them again but I feel like anything I say won't work. I'm nervous for the future too, because I know that if in the future we talk again and want to close the distance, I bet she'll bring her parents along, and what if my parents don't approve? I feel like it would look wrong if I'm alone and she would come with her parents.

[Maximum212]

They way your parents probably see it is that they want you to stay focused on school and becoming mature, and they think if you're spending a good amount of your time talking to a girl, you'll get distracted and the other things won't matter. This is generally what happens with young teenagers and relationships. For now, just stay friends with her.

That is how they see it. I'm sure I've already assured them that I wouldn't let the relationship interfere with my studies. It doesn't even look like I have the option to even be friends with her. They want me to break communication with her completely.